I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend, and I know I shouldn't be.  Our relationship ended because he cheated on me, and certainly not for the first time.  Well, that's not entirely fair, a smaller problem we had that I was beginning to lose my mind... so, he said that if I got better, we could get back together.

I've gotten better, and he broke up with the rebound girlfriend, but he still won't come back, and he says it's because he doesn't want me, and he wants to be single.  Yet, he has a crush on another girl at his school.  He claims he doesn't want to pursue, he just wants to deal with it until it goes away, but who is he kidding?

What's so wrong with me that he doesn't want me?   I'm smart, funny, kind, and loyal.  I have all of these good qualities, but yet he has a crush on a girl who is avoiding him and treats him differently in front of her friends.  Great, I'm unwanted while Miss Two-Face is "totally hot".

First of all, I'd like to ask you to stop beating yourself up, cut yourself some slack, and love yourself..

Here's one example of beating yourself up..  "I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend, and I know I shouldn't be."  It is OK to be in love with him still..love is all there truly is in this world when you take everything else away.  

Next, it isn't about him....it is about you........ "What's so wrong with me that he doesn't want me? "  The answer?  Nothing.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with you.  You are a growling, living soul on this earth, young and tender, here to learn the lessons life has to teach, and this ex-boyfriend is a teacher.  He is teaching you to learn to love yourself first.  Happiness comes from within.  Does it matter what he thinks is wrong with you?  No..that is about him, not you.  What is about you, is why you think there is something wrong, or why you care.

Take a class that improves you, like photography or dance,  writing, something creative you've always wanted to do.  Pour yourself into learning a new skill.  Repeat daily to yourself when you wake up and before you go to bed looking into the mirror "I Love Me" until you can say it with confidence and truly believe it.  Soon your light inside will shine so brightly, you will attract new partners into your life....and allow for change..Partners may come and go, and trust me after 50 years, I know...but each one is a blessing and bring a gift that you learn from, thank them for, and if need be move on..allowing for change and growth.

Best Wishes.

Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want you!?  Sounds like he doesn't know what he wants!  kgirlsmomma is right....when you love yourself you will be amazed how many people will be drawn to your light...like moths to a flame.  

HUG!

Nothing is wrong with you.. Sometimes things are just not meant to be.. I used to think the same thing about me when i split up with my ex.. It was very hard on me.. But never think something is wrong with the person you are.. Never let another person and more so a man make you feel worthless or whatever.. People change,move on,do their own thing and it seems your ex has taken another turn in his life.. Don't think badly of the other girl either,it's not her fault and its bad karma on your part.. kgirlsmomma is totally correct.. I still havent learnt to love myself and im going around in circles here,but its true.. You need to love yourself and it will be much easier.. Thats right,you have all these GOOD qualities,so don't waste your time wanting someone who doesn't see them.. There are plenty of fish in the sea,you're still so young.. Live,learn and have fun.. We all get broken hearts in life and we all mend.. Things just take time and sometimes alot of work to get there...

Take good care of yourself.. *huggles*

I know you probably hate hearing this, but you are soooooo young.  I know it feels so strong, the feelings that you have for him, but in time they wont be so strong.  You need to love yourself just like the other advice on here.  When you love youself and who you are and you are confident, you will attract people.  It is true that you find someone when you are not looking, so don't go looking for it, you should work on yourself and being happy and it will happen.  He doesn't deserve you, and you should move on.   Just move ahead and see what the future holds and you will probably look back on this and say the best thing he ever did was not come back because my life is so full of happiness without him.