No ones situation is ever "small",we are all different and have different issues and problems so please dont ever feel selfish in asking for advice,help or a hug.. Sometimes its the smallest things that can cause us the most pain.. We all feel like fools at times when it comes to love etc.. I had let myself down in the past.. I thought i was smarter than i was and didnt ever think i would end up single with a child.. Not that i'd change it now,i love it.. In the end you are not a fool,it was all meant to be.. There is always something good in what seems bad... As you said,now you will notice the red flags when they are there,if it happens again.. My mind wanders off too *sighs*,but you need to focus on something else.. Try doing something you really love to keep that mind of yours busy.. Push yourself to do things that make you smile.. Do not dwell on what has happened as its in the past.. You can work from the past but dont let past events ruin the now or future.. And what you think is your mistakes are not mistakes,they're just lessons to be learnt.. Everyone has moments like this,so you're very much NOT a fool.. You're human...

*huggles* to you... xxx.

We all make mistakes with relationships. I look back and cringe on some of my choices in relationships and though I feel like a fool with some, it made me who I am today.  I learned from the mistakes and moved on.  No problem is too small, especially when it is affecting you in a big way.  In time, it will seem less important and you wont think about it like you do now.

The main thing, in the short term, in the here and now..in this moment...is to stop beating yourself up.  Love yourself for who you are..who you are becoming.  Life isn't about finding yourself..it's about CREATING  yourself.

Oh wow, I wasn't expecting any more replies, lol. Thanks to everyone that replied to my post and for the hugs! Your words of encouragement are helping me and the advice I'm receiving are so valuable. I'm just going to focus on school and my hobbies...probably go back to crocheting..lol who knows. I have to keep saying to myself..things happen for a reason. These lessons are showing me that I need to focus on loving me. I've put myself on the back burner, so I need to start asap. If I do cross paths with someone and IT LASTS (lol), I'll be willing to share...

Honestly now, everyone is entitled to their issues, there is always someone who has it better or worse.