I don't know where to post this, but I am in urgent immediate need of help!  According to Doreen Virtue and her wonderful book, "Healing With The Fairies," and another wonderful book she wrote, "Realms of the Earth Angels," I'm not certain of the title, I have many characteristics of that of a Fairy and Pixie.  I'm also considered to be an Indigo Adult.  I'm highly sensitive and I'm having a very difficult time coping in this harsh violent world.  I really need a friend.  It's not so much that I'm trying to change myself and become something that I'm not in order to survive in this world, but my husband and I both agree that this world is only going to get tougher, more harsh, violent, and challenging to live in and my only option is to "toughen up", for lack of better words.  It's either that or wither away like a tattered leaf.  The challenge is that I don't know how to do this.  If I had the funds and could, I would go live in Findhorn, a Magickal intentional community in Ireland, and live among those who are as highly sensitive, gentle, loving, kind, compassionate, and caring as I am.  Sadly, I have not received the funds to do this and I haven't found an intentional community of this nature.  I feel very alone, sad, hurt, scared, and distressed.  I sometimes wish I was a little less sensitive, but I am what and who I am.  It would really help me and comfort and support me to know that there are others like me who understand and can appreciate me and who I am and where I come from and commiserate.  My husband reminded me that Tinkerbell from Peter Pan is a Fairy, but she can be real tough and strong when she wants and must and needs to be and she can "kick serious butt" with an attitude!  I need to learn EFT = Emotional Freedom Technique and I need to learn how to cope and manage better and heal.  Please help me.  Thank you.

Hey there!
Well you def have a friend here , I know what you mean by all you say. I came across that same feeling when I was a bit younger - I made a mistake with it though. There is a difference between getting tougher and getting hard. I got hard and thats not a good idea
And also when you word it like that, like that you have to get tougher in order to survive or as you said "It's either that or wither away like a tattered leaf.", it sounds horrible to your more gentle side within one; your heart gets hurt and refuses to accept 'it' cause it just comes across as just SO wrong!.
I would rather word it and therefore change the way you think about it hence creating a better energy flow and intention - by saying you gotta wisen up and get quicker, I don't know why but I have this clear image of a adolescent wolf growing up and learning to survive but having extreme gentleness and grace. Then I also get an image of a lynx strolling along down this path casually but with that extreme inner strength - can leap into action at a moments notice.
They have serious tough lives - yet they cope with grace, strength and love and in harmony with their surroundings.

What I guess I am trying to say is that if you can't figure out what to do - look towards the animal kingdom.  If you are already responding to the elemental realm then this will be like coming home. When I have run out of ideas on how to deal with a situation I always turn to them and get SUCH a distinct answer it always amazes me.
You see just by learning how an animal protects itself, how does it cope with the elements (grow fur/sleep/shed/eat/hunt) how it hides itself, the way it looks after its young, what habitat it chooses to live in and how it responds to other animals etcetc; will give you all the answers you would need on how to cope with your surroundings.
Take some time and research them and their behaviour, just pick a fav animal and research it. I have the Ted Andrews Animal Totem Tarot deck and wow! Def worth getting yourself a set.
The min you ask the animal kingdom in your life you will be amazed on how they reach you, through tv, radio, magazines, out in the actual wild etc etc
Oh and your husband in my opinion has got it tapped! Humour about it all is the best cure...I have a distinct memory from a good friend that helped me lighten up once, hahahaha! it was this ninja move....slide...uppercut.... heehee Whenever I feel down or overwhelmed by life I just imagine slllliiiidddddeee....uppercutting the situation and it gets me giggling and relaxing about it all.
And this feeling, the feeling of dispair over how difficult life can be, does hit me every now again, I either do my ninja move or  i just have a good ol sob and then I feel right as rain. I call it my Darkest Nights of The Soul.

So now "kick serious butt with an attitude"....slllliiiiiidde...UPPERCUT!!! *grin*

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Have a look at these threads too, there is loads of info in them.
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Love & Strength

sometimes volunteering and helping out the community brings satisfaction. It can open your eyes and make you realise you are better off than you think. It can also give you self satisfaction in a sense that you are not helpless and you are doing something about it.

I learnt a while ago that, just because the world may be cruel, it doesn't mean you must become one of them.  Philosophically speaking, i also learnt that the world must consists of opposites and is always impermenant and for ever changing. Change often brings with it things that may appear harsh at the time, but in reality if you see things in a broader perspective, you will realise that it's all apart of making the world a better place. How else will we learn if things were always happy and unchanging?

Becareful not to become hard since it will make u cold. I've fallen into that habit and it's not the path you want to go. But from this experience i learnt that it's best to seek spiritual strength. Use your strengths such as your caring and sensitive nature into a positive thing. I also learnt that when things become difficult, i replace the anger with generousity. I understand that it can be difficult. I am empathic as well. But being expressive with kindness and generousity brings about good karma.

Hope this helps. Just thought i'd share some of my life lessons and experiences.

sweetie here is a huge hug....much love and huggies

I can relate to your being overwhelmed to all the negativity in this world....but there is also IMMENSE beauty.  For every negative there is  a  positive, but I feel you are getting knocked on your behind and being kicked while you are down.  I think it would be helpful for you to find a river or stream, a noisy one in the woods.  Sit with yourself and let the water wash the negativity from your soul.  Figuratively, not literally.  You need some armor and need to prepare yourself before you go out into the world because of your sensitivity.  Positive re-inforcement.  Tell yourself you will not let the negativity get to you....you feel it and it goes right on by....Place a big smile on your face when you are out and every time you feel positive energy...hold on to it.  More and more will come your way, and you will feel the negativity less..  I feel there is something for you to learn by you living where you  are now.  I believe you choose when you are born and you chose to be born in this day and age for a reason.  

You are stronger than you think.  You received some great advice here by beautiful souls...Rosered...I love that uppercut...it is a very strong visualization..

Even if you don't do volunteer work go out of your way to do a simple act of kindness each day,  for humans, animals, or mother earth.  It will be returned to you many times over.  You will get better and find more peace in your life.  You aren't giving in to it....you are reaching out for help and  when you ask for it you will receive it, give it time.  Keep on searching.  

I find it helpful to wrap myself in white light...full of love....and nothing dark can thrive in that light very long.