Hi, everyone this has been bothering me for a long time so I'm going to spill my guts..I've been knowning this guy for about 3 1/2 years now. It's been a rocky road. it's been on and off.. At one time me and this man lived together for about a month. I through him out because he wouldn't help me pay the bills like he said he would.. I was having trouble with my bills anyway. He knew that i was about ready to get kick out. So I kicked him out for not helping. He thought I was going crazy. But I was very depressed...We didn't talk for about 2 weeks.. I forgave him ...At my new place I decided that I was going to do live-in care for awhile..He didn't like that to much I wasn't sending enough time with him... He wanted my key to my new place....so i gave it to him...I found out that he had another women in my house when I told him she couldn't come there....So I took my key back...He met a married women at his job...He would make comments to me that he wanted to see how far she would go to come see him..He would also made comments she has enough money to buy me a house....Well her husband found out on Thanksgiving last year that she was messing around on him...He ended up beating her up...lock her in her bedroom for 4 days...she went to a womens shelter for a month....my friend was taking her home and he totaled his car...They both got arrested he got arrested for a suppended license and lieing to police...she went because she a medicine that wasn't prescribed to her and lieing to police she said she was driving the car.....When he left his roommate he wanted to move in with me but I wouldn't let him do that...because of the past history don't want to go through that again...He would have to prove to me that he wanted to be with me.....Well I found out they got married about a month and half now....I told him I couldn't see him anymore because he was married....of course he got mad....He called me one day and said that he love me and that he wanted to be with me and to give 5 to 6 months....of course I should have been very happy that he said that but I don't believe him....He got arrested again a couples days ago for not paying his child support..... When the first got together he didn't work for about 8 months she paid for everything.... She bought him motorcycle...She hasn't been divorced for two months now she is remarried....He called me yesterday wanting to see me again...I told him when you get a divorce until then it's over...I told him I might be moving to a different city.....This women has a very bad spirit about her she is very mean....I told him in the very beginning to leave her alone....How can u love a man that you know u are suppose to be with....How can a man be so greedy to get what he wants for money.....It's all going to back fire...Well thank you so much for allowing to vent...

Ps this man truely broke my heart...

to help you out is try and let him have his heart broken, it always works, give him a taste of his own medicine, he wont like it, but it'll make him realize what he really missed out on. Don't try and tell him to get a divorce, cause if he really loved you then he wouldn't be married with another woman. Chances are he just couldn't get 'busy' with his wife, got in an argument, and used you as a rebound. I've seen it a lot. I'm young, I know, what do I know right? I've seen this a lot and if I learned one thing it's this. The Times change, people don't change. They will lie cheat and steal their way to get what they want. You have to be able to pick out these types, and sadly the only way I've learned is through experience. :\

Well that sounds very complicated to me...I myself would not even have him in my life from this point on...It sounds as tho he likes to play games or maybe he is lost and doesnt know what he wants in life.....How would he prove he has changed,do you think it would be a good idea to  even find out...Is he worth your heart being broken again,maybe?? Its all well and good to support someone who you love but if they dont love you back then you're missing out on what you truely deserve....If you are meant to be together in this life im sure in time he would get his stuff together and really show you he has changed...Doesnt sound like he is ready....If my ex got married or had a full on relationship then said,well i might or will split up with her to be with you i would slap him,hard...I would never be the fill in woman to fill someones gap for a while...You cant change people and they are who they are...And sometimes you just have to say,well i tried,lets move on....I know its sooooooo hard when you love someone...I keep thinking,maybe my ex has changed,give it another go...Then i think why? I mean i gave him more than 2,3,4 even 5 chances...Why let someone use me again when i could find someone who will support me,love me and treat me with the respect i deserve...I believe if something is more bad than good then it isnt worth it...If you are unhappy 90% the time then why bother...You deserve 100% happiness,love shouldnt be a battle...That is my opinion though.

Sending you lots of *huggles* positive energy and love to you.....xx

hthrshorty, forget him.

I'm serious, forget him.  If he truly loved you, he would NEVER have put you in this position where he broke your heart and messed you about.

If he truly loved you, he would NEVER have looked at another woman.

If he truly loved you, he would HAVE give his all to be with you.

He's trouble, he spells trouble, and he even smells trouble.

If he DOES leave his wife and even gets divorce to be with you, you'll get your heart broken all over again.  Deal with the loss of him, set a deadline to grieve for him, and then move on.  You're beautiful and deserve nothing but the best, he is the lowest of the low, and does not deserve to have someone like you.

I know this sounds harsh, but from an outsider point of view, if he loved you and wanted to be with you, he wouldn't have made empty promises or put you in a position where you broke your heart.

Sympathies to you and much much hugs.  You're better than him and deserve the best.

JJ