Again thank you for all who replied.  I was able to read the messages prior to the site going coo-coo.  My internet friend seems to be doing better.  The blogs are more clear, where as before they were changing and jumping all around. The private emails were dark and talked about details.  Now they are filled with hopeful plans.  I am not sure if this is what they were just saying this just for me.  This person seems more frank about things.  They clearly had mentioned thinking about the times that they tried and was thinking about it again.  It was different than just passing conversation.  We all get those saddies.  This was lasting this person for a while. Every passing day they were getting more and more depressed.  The sentances were not clear.  This is a very articulate individual.  I knew something was not right.  Then it came out, and they were able to talk freely about their feelings inside.  Just listening and not playing judge.  Offering suggestions, and my help if they needed really seemed to help them feel not so alone.  Found out this time by remaining calm I did not have them retreat inside into their shell.  Although I was panic stricken!!  I was sick inside because I really thought that they were serious. I still do think at that time, be it a day, week, etc. they were thinking seriously about it. It was the way they talked. All hope was lost.  Just pain remained.  No plans, no future, no joy.  This person is going through much more than they let on in the blog, this came out later.  Having to find their own strength, don't know how long it will take. All I can do is remain this person's friend, and offer love and support.  The professional therapy has been mentioned, but they are not willing to go.  Had to drop it, filling frustrated at times. Worried that I will say or do the wrong thing.  I don't know what will trigger them next time.  I hope in time they learn their triggers and find the means to deal with it as it comes.  

Again thank you for all the words of support and wisdom.  I was able to apply what I had learned from those who shared their insight.

If you tried to send me an email I was able to read but for some reason unable to send.  I always check my sent folder box to make sure it goes through. Don't know if this is another bug or not.  Just wanted to let those parties know about this. I am not sure if you are getting my private messages or not.

Safe Journey

Hey, Crow,

I'm so happy to hear that things sound somewhat more positive for the person, and for you (because you care).  Taking that "neutral" (and it's NOT neutral at all, of course!) stance can be really hard, but once you get the hang of it it does seem easier, and to somehow miraculously clear the path for things you'd given up hope on from a person.

Even if things get darker for the person again, I would bet that he/she now knows that you can be trusted, that your caring is sincere and based specifically on his/her needs (as opposed to your own--it's hard not to let one's own feelings "interfere" when you're trying to help someone..believe me, I know!), and that you're therefore the person to reach out to if and when there is a next time.

You should be very proud of yourself!

Doe