every day when I wake up I just hurt inside. Of course it's because of a man, not like you've never heard that one before but well for me after everything I been through I should have known better to think I had found the perfect man. He was so different to anyone else I've ever met and this strange thing started happening...I'd dream of places near where he was living even tho' I've never been there and he would do the same about here...and in the dreams we'd be together and it was so vivid I could physically feel him near me. No matter how I felt one word from him could just lift my spirits and have me giggling like a little girl, I fell so crazily in love with him, that I even asked him to marry me? Never done that before! and better still he said yes with no hesitation and we started making plans... only now it all seems to have gone wrong. I found out he'd lied to me, a small lie but it covered a big truth and while I understand why he did it, he's fears were unfounded as what he thought would make me run from him, the knowledge of it did nothing to my feelings for him.  What I can't get over is the fact that, that lie was volunteered I never asked him to tell me anything that prompted him to cover his tracks like that. And now I feel like, my idea of who he is, was based partly on that lie and the guy I fell in love with and wanted to grow old beside, doesn't exist...I still want him and he wants me and we are together but I just don't know how to get past this feeling. I've told him we are going to need a long chat about everything, but we haven't had a chance to yet...that was 4 days ago

Big hugs sent to you.  Yep I can understand how you feel.  I have been lied to by my ex, I didn't really trust him after that he kept on lying.   I think if this guy you have been seeing is right for you he would not lie to you.  By lying to you he has broken the trust you had with him.  I hope that you two can work it through.  Maybe you need to give it time to see if things are going to work out for you.

Oh hunny (((hugs))) your right you need to chat. But if you love him and think that you can get past this then remember no one is perfect. my mans lied to me before(nothing major) but it still makes you think twice with trust issues. I really really hope you can work things out, let us know.
xxxlauraxxx

The past 4 years of my life have been mostly lies,its shitty....But if you love this man as much as you do then i think it was just a mistake and most people deserve second chances,i mean its only the once....I dont know how you will get past this feeling as when lies are involved no matter how small make you have doubt....Maybe he just didnt know how to go about telling you the truth,who knows what was running thru his head........I think the talk is a good idea...Ask him why and how this lie came about and that you dont want that to happen ever again.......But he did break your trust and i hope you'll be able to work it out with him....Without trust there is nothing....Good luck and *huggles* and also my love going to you.


Tamara :o)

Hello herbie75, Take a big breath and think to yourself what should I do, read and do what people have said here or should I listen to my heart, only you know what you should do, if you feel that the love is still there you will know what the answer will be.


Delilah.