Big hugs and positive energy sent to you.

I know it must be very difficult to feel alone,but you're not alone.....You can talk to me if you want.....Money problems are the worst but try not to think about the dept and not having enough (i should take my own advice on that)...Know and believe that you will get out of this place and things will get better.......Just like ur saying says,you can get thru anything....You already are doing a great job but if you need help you need to seek for it.....I dont know where you are from etc but there has to be a little more help for you....Mr right will come along too,i know what you're talking about...Most the good men are in hiding playing peekaboo....But you'll find someone who will love you deeply......Just remember that things always get better if we have faith,like a line in the song goes...We cant get to heaven if we dont go thru hell.....*huggles* positive energy and all my love going to you.


Tamara :o)

Hi, CCLady,

I'm so sorry about all the difficulties you're having right now.  It sounds as if you feel very alone, and very desperate.  You also sound like a wonderful mother whose love for her daughter will be able to get her through everything.  It must be agonizing knowing that her father abused her, and that he won't at least admit it--but of course that's not something that anyone who does that kind of thing will be willing to admit.  How old is your daughter?

When I read what you have posted at the bottom of your posts, though (about how faith and love of God will get you through anything), I thought that you are very lucky to have that kind of faith, because it WILL get you through, even if at the moment it might seem that nothing will ever get better.  I just have a strong sense that if you love, and show your love and caring for others whenever you can, and keep faith that you are loved in return, you will be OK.  And you are lucky to have someone in your life (your daughter) who you love that much, because I think that you will get all that love back in all kinds of wonderful ways--and not just from her.

Maybe it will help to think of all of this as a test--of your faith, of who you are as a person, of your ability to love even when it seems that everything is against you.  Stay focused on your daughter, and who you want to be, and your faith--no matter what happens.  And at some point the test will end, and you'll be rewarded for staying a good, loving person through all the bad things that have happened.  It might be REALLY hard right now, but try to focus on the good things you have, and the good you see in others, and the beauty around you.  I'm sure you'll come through, and your daughter will also learn how to face adversity with the same grace and love you've shown.

In the meantime, we are here, and you can "talk" any time.  I will pray that things get better for you, and that the "test" ends very soon!

Please don't forget to take care of yourself, too!

Take care,

Doe

P.S.  Have you exhausted all of the possible sources of financial help you might be eligible for?  I don't know where you live, but there usually tend to be more resources for families with children.  Sometimes you just really have to seek them out and be persistent about getting them (I used to be a social worker, so I have some experience with how red tape can make it seem impossible to get the help you need, but it's always worth a try!)

When we are going through money problems I think to myself we are going to get through this somehow that has always worked for me.  Try and stay postive that things will work out for you and you daughter, it is hard at times but you will get through this.  I think with all the struggles we go through with life is a test for each of us to see how we cope with these things.