*Huggles* now to be less blunt, i hope things work out for you and your child. Your child comes first in your life and while you might have a soft spot for this man i can tell theres no love there between either of you, hes just using you for basically sex and to see how much he can get away with before you put your foot down. This has to go to court though so you can get the child support you need and maybe visitation rights, if he loses his wife and his family because of this then its his own fault not yours, he chose to do the things he did and now its his time to pay for his actions

First, Since we don't know the situation you both was in when the affair was a reality, we can't blame one part mor then the other...since it always need to be 2.

When it comes to the test.

If you are in for this, not for the money, but because you know he is the father, then I would say...Yes, do the test!

There is no way he can take your kid because of money, and if he try, he will only be verdict to pay more..because he have good founds..this of course as long as you live a normal life, so no can blame you for child abuse.

A test will give all a peace in soul, and in this I think on your child that will know it for sure.

I think as long as he behave, "as a man" ,there is no need to do any fuzz, but to try to solve a case that involve you all equal, the best way.

Good luck to you all!

For the last 4 years he's never mentioned a paternity test once. He knows she's his. My feeling is that he wants to put his ducks in a row just incase it comes out, he'll have proof and access to her. I can count on one hand how many times she has stayed away from me, I dont want to share her with him for my own selfish reasons. But in the best interest of her, at 7 yrs old, she has never had a relationship with him, I dont want her to be caught in the middle of all this and the fallouts. He should have requested one years ago when she was too young to understand whats going on, by now everything would have blown over.
As long as he doesnt have actual proof in his hands, Im safe. Unless his wife finds out, I dont think he'll force me to do it. But if I did do it, everyday I would be scared wondering if today is the day he decides he wants her. Im extremely suspicious as to his motives at this point.
I definately wont be sleeping with him anymore. How can I trust him to keep his word that he wont take her from me when he cant even be faithful & truthful to his own wife.

has she ever asked where her daddy is? this isnt gonna blow over just like that, you need to get yourself a lawyer first and go to court, because if you do that all this will go away quicker. If your that suspicious of his motives then get a good lawyer, this isnt gonna go away on its own

Hi...I have read through your posts please don't kid yourself, a married cheating husband doesn't know when to stop having affairs, he could have a few mistresses on the go, and he may now want to drop a few, Men can be very cunning in how they do things, if he had come straight out with, I would like a paternity test you could have gone to the press, he had no way of knowing your reaction. by sleeping with you he Knows you have a soft spot for him and that he can get the test without the publicity. To him if the test comes back negative he can put the past behind him with no proof of having an affair. If positive he still lives in fear that he could lose his family, You mentioned he has only seen your daughter a few times does this sound like a man that wants to risk losing his family, to take on your daughter.  My advice would be to take the test and the child support., If your secret did come out, do you really think his wife would take on your child, it would tear her to pieces every time she saw her, I really don't think he wants the test to take your daughter away, I think he wants it because hes having nightmares facing the consequences of his actions   Best wishes and lots of HUGS coming your way