HI,

I am very new to this board.. so please bear with me..

wel i need advice.. and surely a hug..

I am married for 1 and half year.. but we both have stayed together just around 6 months because of our jobs. But now we have decided to stay together as i am quitting my job. Wel the problem is tht whenever we are not together all we do is fight over the phone...

I think i ask for a little more attention.. i call him once/ twice a day.. and want to talk a lot.. but he is always busy.. i know he is managing a lot of things.. even in the night or weekends.. he is out or with friends or something or the other..... but then it drives me crazy when he hangs up on me.. or does not answer my calls...

Its 90% times me who calls him.. i hardly get a cal from him...

Its not tht he doesnt love me.. i know he does..
our major fights are because of this..

am i not giving him enough space? am i being too demanding?

I dont know wat to do....

My Greatest Hug to you.


what i have seen is it happens to most couples who are in a distant relationship.Mostly the girls are the most demanding ones.This i would called as insecurity and fear of losing the person we love.But i will ask you,you said that you know he loves you,then why you feel insecure.The major problem with girls is that they think giving attention to them means that the person loves them.i think you should put your trust in him and give him space.like this he will be happier and will not feel pressurize(which guys normally don't like).And also give yourself an air of mystery to him.Add spices in your romantic life.this will keep him wonder about you in positive way.Don't give most attention to him.Give yourself part of the attention.enjoy yourself.Do what you like.man like positive and happy woman.lol
Stop treating this problem of attention as a problem.take it as the other way round.make it that you can be happy without his attention.

I'm certainly not the best giver of relationship advice as I just finished my divorce last week.  But I can give hugs and it seems you can use one.  Hang in there. (((((HUGS)))))

Follow dhav's advice. Very true.
Learn to love yourself, and remember why you fell in love in the first place.
It's still there. Get a hobby or another job. Stay busy.

A HUGE HHHUUUGGG, positive energy and love to you both.
Karlene

Agreed, listen to dhav.  
Do things for you, love yourself.  Meditate.  Appreciate the beauty in nature.  Fill yourself with the things you love and the love of the Universe.  Appreciate him and his needs too.  Don't base all of your life on him right now.  Create your own interests, make yourself a really interesting person.  Have lots to keep you happy.