here is a huge hug sweetie...much love and huggies

Congratulations on your new marriage and welcome into a new and beautiful world if both of you choose to work together. The Biggest thing in the marriage is communication. Communication on both parts. How do I know this? I was married for 20 years. My husband died a year and a half ago. I still cry. We definitely had our problems, his death was sudden and our marriage wasn't perfect and Please believe me when I tell you that.....No marriage is. Marriage is not an artifac that just is. It's an evolving, phase changing, mulitfacited diamond that is forever molding into something that is spiritually breath taking.

With this I can say you and your husband are in a new phase of your marriage. We were there before. My husband worked day in and day out and there were sometimes, even though he lived at home, I really didn't see him for days. I started taking flute lessons and started to "think" I was becoming infatuatated with my teacher. This scared me. I stopped abruptly, got a female teacher and explained to my husband that I was lonely and that I needed him. I needed more of him. It's not the amount of time it is the quality of time. He began to call me whenever he could sometimes 5 to six times a day. I also got busy.

We can love anyone we choose to love BUT it's even harder to be Best Friends.      

I hope I helped. Here is a GREAT BIG HUG and a SQUEEZE! The answer is always: Talk about it.

Firstly.. i am really sorry for your loss....Thanks a ton for your advice...  i completely agree tht no marriage is perfect.. I had a arranged marriage..  and after which we both are trying to understand each other and stuff... since the start we always talk to each other abt wat we feel.. it was always helpful... but now i feel i am being taken for granted... i have tried to talk abt this to him.. but have always got a very bad reaction.. which ended in fights.. i tried explaining tht i need his time.. more attention... i do get a call in the evenings at times.. but its just so short.. tht i dont feel like telling anything.. at times i feel we are just casual friends.. its getting worse day by day..

Now i am trying to divert my attention somewhere else.. but i dont know how much will it help.. or just increase the distance..

I suppose the best that you can do is let him be alone for a while. In a close relationship, personal space is a crucial element. Don't be so hard on yourself. Not all situations require you to look for someone to blame and you certainly should not feel bad about the way that you have handled things so far.