Hi. I am in confusion right now and was wondering if someone can point me a direction. I've always wanted to get into a relationship with someone, but hesitant until I found someone who was worth it, someone that I see a future with.

Someone told me that I'm not ready for love right now, and should focus on education and career. She said the reason I'm seeking love is to get the childhood love that I did not get, and said I got the concept of love wrong.

Right now, I feel that love is the only thing that can make me truely happy. Yes going out with friends makes me happy, but when I'm alone, I just feel really down. I really cannot focus 100% on education or career, because I think about love every minute and every second.

Thanks.

A big Grandpa hug to you...and since you asked for advice...I will give you mine

Love can't be ordered as "a big mac", it must come natural and the day you meet the person you really will share your life with, you will know it..and feel it...in your whole body. Hopefully the one you fall for also will fall for you

To think to much on "love" in your situation will only make matter worse.
It will damage your concentration.
This is the time where you put up your foundation for your life, where you get your ground education that will bring you forward.
Everything that takes away your focus from this, might bring you a heavy pay later because you did not see your goals true.

If you go around, longing for love, you will in your behaviour tell any "girl" that you are in a "desperate" state, and that might prevent them from knowing you.

Try to focus on school, try to live as natural as possible....you are still very young and have good time.....when love hit it is like lightning and that might happen tomorrow or in 10 years time....and if you in 10 year meet the right one....well then 10 years are not to long to wait for her!

Good luck....and don't look to much too what your friends do....do what you feel are best for you!

Who is better than Grand Pa to give you the best advice,I agree with Rutho.you should build your foundation at this age.Love will happen at the right time.Everyone would love have have the other significant with him/her but ask yourself if you are really ready to maintain a relationship right now?

I have been at that place at your age.Pinning for love.Well i was too impatient and had a hard time about it.but it was great experience to know more about life(still have to learn more) and get more mature(still have to get wiser).So give yourself and your heart time so that one day you are ready to be with the love of your life.Well i am not saying to flee away from girls or relationship now.you can meet people,know them and see what they bring to you and your life.Have fun i will say.but first nurture yourself and give lots of love to yourself.

a person in love with her/himself will get soemone who will love him back.HEHE.



dhav

Hi
Time to chill out mate, you are trying to hard and nothing works out when you do that.
Just think about what happened last year when you tryed pushing things along .
Take Grandpa's advice and just let things take its course. Love will find you a lot sooner than you think but you are stopping this from happening with the actions you are doing now.....Dont make me come and psychicaly "slap ya across the back of the head D'noso"
Cheers Pete

Hallo, fellow Sag! Such passionate signs as ours cannot live without love for long. The problem is, as already wisely pointed out, that you cannot order it with your dinner to take (shame, really: it would make things so much easier   ).

So, since love will come when the time is ripe and no sooner, all I can tell you is what I used to do when I felt very lonely (alright... I still do it sometimes   ) and that is... use my imagination! I fall asleep making up stories about the ideal mate and how it would feel to be together. It is specially soothing to have a good conversation with that person in your mind (of course, they are unfailingly understanding) and/or have them caress your hair as you fall gently asleep (they never complain that it is your turn to comb their hair!)  

Yes, I know you can imagine more interesting things: I am not that naive! And specially at 18 and choked full of hormones  In fact, I was making the point that there are infinite alternatives for our imagination: you should try some!  

There is another point to all this: making sure you are familiar with the kind of person you are looking for. By imagining you go through all sorts of situations together, you focus on your expectations for a partner and sort of project your ideal to the universe... and hopefully have the universe answer back. I know this works for other things, like job searching, house hunting, etc: the only way to get what you want is first making sure you know what it is.

Best of luck in finding the right one and in idling the time meanwhile...