Hello, I need some words of wisdom or advice. I’m completely sad and alone, and I don’t know what to hold on to. When I say alone, I really mean it. I guess I’m okay with the fact I only have one friend I hang out with. Because, then I hang out with her friends. My real problem is that I don’t have anyone that loves me; I want a boyfriend so bad. I think I deserve one by now! I’m 24 and I’ve only been on 4 or 5 stand-alone dates and I’ve dated one guy for a shocking whole month. I don’t have commitment issues, it’s just none of these guys were any good for me. The few guys I really liked stopped calling me and lost interest, and the others just didn’t match me. (One guy had a secret girlfriend and the other had a wife with children he didn’t bother mentioning)
Some people are content with being single, but I’m not. People keep saying, don’t worry, you’ll find someone. Well, I haven’t met anyone yet, and I have been looking. I’ve dated from Internet dating sites, which I hate doing. I really really hate those sites, but I don’t have any options, cause there’s no opportunities for me to meet anyone. I don’t like the bar scenes either, cause I don’t drink.
I’m crying a lot lately, this has been going on forever. The first date I ever had was in college, and I didn’t even go to my high school prom. It kills me; sometimes I just go to the bathroom at work and just cry. I pray a lot too, for some divine intervention or something. I’m also shy, which makes the odds of finding love even greater. I can’t live like this anymore. I would be so much happier if someone loved me. I’m depressed because I’ve been alone for so long, and because I’m depressed I might not be attracting anyone.
I’ve been reading books about soul mates and such to try and get the ball moving, but I’m reading conflicting things. I hear people say as soon as you stop looking you’ll find someone. But don’t you need to put effort into it? Does Love really work like that? I’ve also read that your suppose to tell yourself that your ready for love and spend 10 minutes a day thinking about your make-believe lover and eventually it will come true. So what should I do? Should I stop looking or keeping looking? Which would be the best option to find someone?
I’m so depressed; sometimes I just want to give up!

First of all, lots of hugs,

Next, years ago, I had a reading by a very accomplished reader.  She was living what she taught me.
Start sitting down and look inside.  There are lots of parts of us.  First of all find the part who is your best friend.
You can have a male part and female part who are best friends to you.  Sit and talk with them, listen to them.
Next look inside and meet the male in you who is your partner in life. Spend time everyday with this partner.  Talk with him, discuss things with him.  Have a complete relationship with the man inside of you.  Know what he looks like, what he likes and dislikes.  Share with him.  Be honest with him and let him be honest with you.  

Now, when she did this she met a man in her outside world.  He was much like her inside partner. They started dating and became closer.  He suddenly used the same endearment (loving nic name) that her inside partner uses with her.
He had the same likes and dislikes.  They got married.  Now, one of the really neat things she does.  When they have problems, she goes and mediatates and discusses it completely and works it out with her inside partner.  The outside relationship clears up and they too are able to talk and work it out.
It is a very powerful thing to do for ones self.  The various people I know who have done this in their lives have found strong and loving and supportive friends and partnerships.

Take good care and know you have the power and ability to change your life.  Create what you want inside of you and make it real and it has to appear in your outside world.  

here is a huge hug sweetie... dont give up there is someone out there for u it will happen u are a wonderful loving person...im sending u some positive energy...much love and huggies

Hmm Hi kto1o,

First a huge hug to you.



Reading your life story makes me think a bit about me some years ago.Meeting the wrong guys,being shy,having only one friend and hanging out with her frends.Having also heart breaks and crying all my heart out after being hurt.feeling very lonely most times.

Then a twist took form.I began to understand things.I began to know about spiritual things,destiny and many such things.I began meditation and decided that i should concentrate more on myself,on my development as a human being.i thought this would help me to be fit for the life that has been carved for me as destiny.If i would continue to cry,to pin for others's love and reject loving myself i would not grow as a person.then i saw that gradually as i developed the path would open automatically for me and new worlds would open for me.

As for your love life.I think it is better to wait for the perfect one than having many bad experience with the wrong ones.your heart will know when he will come.So no worry about that.He will come at the right time when you will be ready for him.

so first of all try to know yourself ,discovering yourself and make yourself happy.a happy person will attract a happy relationship.

if you got something to ask ask don't hesitate.If you want to be sure of things try our free readings forum to clarify your doubts.It will do you good.

dhav

huge hug,   n lots of love lluvia