I need a hug because my dad wont talk or accept my boyfriend.

All you girls know how dads are protective but as you get older, esp turning 18 in a matter of days, it gets tiring. I've been best friends with my boyfriend for almost 2 years before we started going out. in November he asked me out . Well hes a bit older, we're 6 years apart, he being 25 and im almost 18 (feb 25) I told my mom abut him and she asked how old he was (before we were going out) and i lied and said 19, to save all the drama, not knowing we were gonna go out someday. well when it came time, my mom found out by looking on his myspace and saw the age but didnt tell me. She wanted me to confess it first. I did and she didnt say anything besides the "whats he doing talking to you??" well we have everything, i mean, EVERYTHING in common, even the same disability. and we compRomise, not fight. We didnt look at age as a problem. Well, my mom started getting use to it, seeing how much he made me happy, but Theres my dad... he doesnt want to discuses it, or talk to him. iits really frustrating, even my mom was like "talk to her about him, she wants to talk to you" and he doesnt want anything to do with it. Well my boyfriend is now living in NY and I want to go see him in March. I got money, and my own transport, but my parents are stopping me, which is not fair, cause ill be 18 at the time.

AND in June, Im moving in with him, but my parents dont know it yet, I dont know how theyre gonna take it. :(

your gonna be 18 so theres nothing they can do to stop you from moving in with him since your gonna be an adult anyway. good luck to you *hugs*

Well, parents not liking a love interest never ends up well. It really sounds like your boyfriend hasn't made much of an attempt to get know your parents well. Even at 21, my parents, who are not over protective in the slightest would appreciate and want my love interest to be able to have a conversation with them. They would not like me going to NY with someone they didn't like.

They wouldn't have a right to stop me, just like your parents can't really stop you. You're 18 so if you just leave, they can't legally go find you.

It's more of an issue of respect. If you respect your parents wishes, you won't do it.

If you really like this guy, instead of just going "Hey mom and dad I'm moving in june and you can't stop me" You should make your boyfriend come down to where you live and sit your parents down with him and both of you tell them.

Even if they freak out, they will really respect the fact that you and him had the common sense and maturity to bring it up to their faces.

Instead of you going to new york why don't you see if your parents would be more comfortable with him coming to you first.
If he is serious about it, he would make time for it.
If you really want a future with this guy it is important for you to help cultivate a positive relationship between him and your parents.

Trust me.

This comes from a girl who was in your boyfriends position.
That ended horribly because he would not make the time for us to all sit down together.

Oh i have been in this position.....I met my now ex bf when i was 16....We were friends for about 2ish years before we sort of hit it off....He was alot older also......My mum was a little shocked but i have always been more mature than anyone my age back then so she sort of expected it......At that time my mum and dad had split so i didnt have to tell him right away because i am his only child and he really does protect me,but if he didnt do that id worry......My mother then told my dad when most the family knew anyway and he went off his rocker,but then he cooled down and they both told me they want to meet him in person first before i go and see him etc......pssst i think my dad knew long before lol.....All was ok in the end,took a long time for my dad to let him into his life.....Now 5yrs later,with a child and being single again my dad and my ex get on great,my dad got to make a relationship with him.....I gave my dad a chance to meet this man before i went off and did my thing,it was important for them to know who this guy is that is dating their child.I probably should have listened to them more now,but thats in the past.

I told my mum the truth because its important when you are 17 going on 18 or any age for that matter whats happening in your life.....Its important for your parents to meet this man before going to see him,they are your parents and they need to feel involved.....I understand where your father is coming from,you're 17 and there is this guy who is in his 20's,he just is worried,thats all......Our parents have been around alot longer than us so they know more about life and what its about......If they dont meet this guy before you move in with them i think they will be very hurt and feel like you couldnt go to them.......Lies can get you deeper into trouble,your mother sounds like an understanding person,if you have her support she will help you with your dad......Just be open and honest......It is a tough position to be in,but its not the worst,you can get past it....Sometimes dads are a little hard to work with but they do come around.

Heres some *Huggles* for ya.

Tamara :o)

I agree with Tamara, better to be honest straight up.

Your parents still see you as a little girl and they feel the need to protect you and whilst 7 years is not a huge difference when your 30 and 40 it will feel a huge difference to them cos they see you as 17.  Relationships with family are incredibly complex and difficult to navigate.  There will be a storm for a while but it will die down when they see that your both together because you love each other and have much to offer each other.  

What i will say to you is that when you look back on this time when your in your 80's and nearing the end of your life, have no regrets, so think long and hard about what your doing with your life.  He may in fact not be the one for you and if you've not had more than a few boyfriends and only sex with 1 guy then you can't always make a good comparison.  In this day and age settling down at 18 is not the only option you can have.  You could go to college or uni and have some fun and date a few guys.  Dating is a fun thing to do and gives you a chance to test out your independance etc.

I wish you well and a huge amount of hugs  and i know that whatever you do you will have fun and be strong minded.

Suzi XXX