I am very afraid of change and those who know me know that i really do, and i also like to avoid my feelings when i think there getting too diffacult to handle, currently me and my bf have a long distance relationship and i wanna take it a step further and move in with him and stuff, i know hes my soulmate and i love him dearly, which scares me to no end so i'm running away from my feelings toward him, i dont know how to stop doing that. I've never felt like this with anyone before and the thought of him loving me back the same way and me feeling the same scares me!!! i dont understand, i dont know how to stop running away from it, i dont know what to say in order to full confront it

Hello Caitlin,

I was once in them same pair of shoes growing up...
I'm 38 now I still have troubles giving back to my husband I've been with him since we was 18 years old...
I really don't want to start blaming ppl in my life..
All I know is I have to learn to trust and love..
I can't just say well Do it and do it now~!! LoL
It takes time and effort..
Even I have come a long ways..
He and my son are my everything in this life..
He knows me like the back of his hand,
but still needs to hear me say I LOVE YOU~!!
I WANT US AS ONE being not a 2 battle couples...

You will never know until you make that step..
Yeah it's scary
Yeah you might fight.
It takes 2 to make it work Your going to have ups and downs falls that's what makes it so you and your own world...
Nothing is peaches and cream..
We learn from our time in life it's about you now..
Go on give it a try that's what we are here for to create a world for living and self-indulged one an other..
It's scary but fun also...

It sounds like a Nicole statment years ago before I was 12..
Do it right the first time or none at all...

It's not fun thinking like we do, I know~!!
All I'm saying is why not try it..
If not him someone else madam..
Best wishes, you'll be fine...  

A Hug for (((((((YOU)))))
You can just decide to open your heart and go for it or listen to the negative stuff in your head. I relate to what you have said though. It's hard to let ourselves be vulnerable but you might miss something really awesome if you don't

Its not easy when we love someone sooooo much,it can be scarey.....But if you never try you will always wonder,that goes for everything in life.....It takes a long time to change our thinking and the way we are,if we have known and been that for so long.....All i can say is give it a go,life is about change,its what ya make it.......All will work out fine,just take your time and work at it bit by bit.....I hope you feel better soon....

Heres a few *huggles* going your way.

Tamara :o)

The unknown is a place people don't like.  However if you use the "if" word in all these situations you will talk yourself out of the great things you will experience in life.  Moving in with someone is incredibly difficult, you see all your selfish points and may even not like yourself for a while, but it does work and people do do it so its not impossible.  Make sure you sign yourself up for some evening classes to make new friends make sure your life is full of interesting things and you will not be bored and the transition into being a couple will be fun.

Go for it, better to have lived without regrets than never taken a risk and be bitter.

Suzi