I need to tell you something I have discovered. A person never stops learning in life. I have just turned 56 and JUST realized that the most important thing about relationships is to remember that you have to accept people for the way that they are, and STOP taking what others say personally. How others talk and act is all about them, it has nothing to do with you at all!!! BELIEVE THAT...They have to live with themselves, and their own consequences. It's normal to be upset, but - to remember this when the event is happening, to take a deep breath and keeping this in mind can be the start of accepting the other person being at fault; the one that is out of control.  It's so much easier to just casually walk away, to softly explain you will be in the other room when they are done with their outburst; if they heard you or not. Or asking someone to call back later, if it happens on the phone. THEN - hang up the phone; down the road, compassion will replace your uncertainty.  I am so glad to see that things have mellowed out for you. I would encourage you at this point not to let it get a hold of you; It's really not that tough to do. You will find a great deal of strength in yourself and surprise not only yourself, but also others how STRONG you really are! I get such cool energy from my inner strength that goes without end. It's Christmas, so have an Eggnog or some of that favorite coffee and watch "It's a Wonderful Life" a few times cuddled up in a warm blanket with someone you love. It's going to be Great 2008 for avikat!!      

big hugs your way lluvia

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