I dont have any advice or words....But here is a bunch of my *huggles* going your way to help you along....


Tamara :o)

Please, let me give you the practical view, then the psychic one:

LOOK, this is the way it appears: You were married for some time, and now are in a big period of upheaval.  You are on the rebound, you have kids, you want a relationship with someone hundreds of miles away and are divorcing.


First of all, as a practical matter most states require that you get permission to move out of state if you are the primary custodial parent. They will look at what is in the best interest' of your children? Usually, it might fly if you have better job prospects there. Do you have any idea of how to support yourself once you arrive? If not, would you actually argue you need to move because of love ...in a divorce proceeding? Yeah..that'll work. NOT. (I realize moving is part of your quandary--legally its probably a huge elephant)

Second of all the burden of transportation will be on you--you will have to send your kids for visitation, AND if your ex  is the primary parent, you will have to travel for visitation. I seriously doubt your ex will permit you to move the kids out of state, even if he is saying so, which I doubt. I think you know that. Have you considered that this is just rebound infatuation or Cinderella Complex?

You really need to think this through better, and not make a decision based on tarot card readings. You owe that much to yourself and family.

Before you close your mind--here's my take on your situation:

This is a BAD idea. It will not work and won't last at this time.

1.    This other guy has past issues. If you do move in with him, you'll be stuck with them. If you move without your children, he'll think you are a bad mother for leaving them behind. He'll see it as abandonment, even if he swears he wouldn't see it that way. ALL men do. Its like a lioness leaving their cubs in the wild. Not very nurturing.

2. Do a background check. I mean, have you seen all these judge afternoon shows recently? Seriously I smell something there. Not terrible, but you need to know.


3.   You are sacrificing your rights in divorce for this relationship. BAD BAD move. When this guy is gone, (I see you breaking off, not him) you'll regret it. You need a lawyer, or you need to listen to the one you have. You need alimony and support. Don't make the mistake that so many women do! There is no such thing as an amicable divorce--only one the ex-hubby is happy with (if its amicable). get as much as you can. Your children and your future depend on your common sense.

4.  Tarot cards are not a crutch for the instability and uncertainty in your life. Listen to Big Girl's Don't Cry by Fergie about 1000 times. Stop reading and go do it NOW, then come back. You need to be YOU. Not someone else's girlfriend. Stand on your own two feet until your own judgment is unbiased, Star Trek Vulcan like and sound. You must exercise some tough love on yourself. Your emotions are causing you to make some bad choices. If you are talking yourself out of a fair divorce settlement, you are an idiot. It may be the fast way out, but its the long path for poverty and hardship. I don't need to be psychic to tell you that.

5.  Keep in contact, but break this connection and be friends with this man. This relationship won't last. I don't see you in a lasting relationship for some time..several months to a year. You are looking for things you can't find in this relationship, you need to find them in yourself.

So no hugs of "Go for it" from me. Hugs in support of you giving yourself a good shake, finding yourself and standing on your own feet, doing whats right by you and your future..alone for now, which is better. Trust me.


There is also a friend of yours that agrees with me. Talk more with this person. I also suggest you get out and take some yoga or aerobics classes. You need to interact socially more and do something for you.
Take 1 day at a time and pat yourself on the back for what you have done so far.

I respectfully disagree with the other readings.

FP