i just caught a lie from my girlfriend and am suspecting that shes lied to me about other more serious things. i really have been looking for years for a girl who is 100 percent honest and truthful, caring and kind, loving and there for me. i dont know. it doesnt seem like there are any girls out there like that. i dont know if my standards are too high for society or if there are actually purely loving people out there that dont lie. especially when in a relationship. ahhh. i dont know what to do. i know it sounds lame, especially coming from a 17 year old guy, but i need a hug. i dont feel i can trust her anymore and i never really felt i could ever trust anybody.

hi sweetie big huugs n more huuuge hugs 4 you things do get better love lluvia

[quote="munit33"]i just caught a lie from my girlfriend and am suspecting that shes lied to me about other more serious things. i really have been looking for years for a girl who is 100 percent honest and truthful, caring and kind, loving and there for me. i dont know. it doesnt seem like there are any girls out there like that. i dont know if my standards are too high for society or if there are actually purely loving people out there that dont lie. especially when in a relationship. ahhh. i dont know what to do. i know it sounds lame, especially coming from a 17 year old guy, but i need a hug. i dont feel i can trust her anymore and i never really felt i could ever trust anybody.[/quote]

Munit,

While parts of us grow and we seem to become stronger and more resilient and tougher if some would call it that, over the years, the part of you that is hurting and is 17 year old will remain at the same age forever. And that is how it should be!

You say that you don't feel like trusting anyone in the world, and yet you are sharing this with a forum full of strangers and writing knowingly because you DO TRUST US and know that our collective hug and show of love will reach in and soothe your hurting emotions.

Don't let that 17 year old part of your 'heart' ever grow because that is what will give you your empathy, your ability to connect to another one, even a stranger, and feel their pain and you will be able to hug them back.

Why people behave or act in a certain manner that is hurtful to their own loved ones is not a black and white or simple chemistry. There are always many complex reasons and excuses for their reaction or behaviour and our perception of other people's behaviours etc.

Loss of trust and loss of control are moments that we are blessed by so that we may understand the Prayer to The Lord:

Lord, give me the courage to try and change that which I can
Lord, give me the wisdom to accept that which I cannot change
Lord, give me the gratitude to view the above two situations as equal

RR

Heres a *huggle* from me to you and my positive thoughts going your way.....I know it must suck and be hard for you,i have been lied to alot,by many,everyone has in life....Its just something we humans do at times,everyone makes mistakes etc.

That is one of the reasons i split with my long term partner,i could not trust him anymore,it hurts like hell and like you i feel as tho i will never trust another man again.....BUT that is not the case,you will again trust as I will,it just takes time to get over the hump.There are good honest trustworthy people out there but sometimes they are difficult to find and no one is perfect.Just remember you are still young and you will find someone whom you can trust and all that,plenty of fishys in the sea,plenty of girls who arent like that.Don't let one cookie ruin the pack for you ok?!

I hope you feel better soon....

Cheers Tamara :o)

I am sending you one of my HUGE hugs - hope it helps a little.  Please do not become so cynical - the right person is out there for you and you will find her ... when the time is right.  However, you need to go through this pain so that you are able to recognise the "real thing" when she enters your life.

Brightest Blessings

Sarah