BIG ((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))))))))))))) twistedwillow!
It seems you have realized what is true with most people! We are born with pure , clear minds and as we grow our minds are "tainted" by the teachings of people who "think" they are "doing what is best or right" for us...let me tell you...You and YOU alone have the power within you to be happy, joyous, and free! The hard part is "letting go" of all the things we were taught as that's all we know...
Coming here is the first part of your journey...take a look around the site and learn...there is much to read! Learning to meditate is a good start...it lets you see for yourself the real you!
I wish you all the best and much happiness! It can be yours if you allow it!
Sending you a warm (((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))) and lots of positive energy!
~Donna~