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Posts: 3 · Posted: Wed Oct 17, 2007 11:03 am

I am so going nuts my kids and partner are driving me crazy i clean at night before i go to bed my kids wake up and the first thing they do is make a huuuuuuge mess and all day i try to entertain visitors and clean and do my kids all while my partner sits on the internet

sometimes he will help but will never play with our babies but will play with other peoples kids its not fair my babies miss out on their daddies love and attention because he sits on the computer all day and night. I feel like leaving them all but i dont want to confusing i know.

Posts: 7407 · Posted: Wed Oct 17, 2007 12:05 pm

A Big Grandpa Hug to you....and maybe some thoughts too.

You are the one who feel the abuse.....you are the one who clean it all up....you are the one that yell and yell but that put no "force" behind the yell.

You must take a time out for yourself.....you must try to figure out clear rules for both your kid and for your Partner.
Those rules you have to fight for....they might hurt all in the start....you are fighting for some respect...they are fighting for loosing of freedom...in the end I hope you win.

It must be clear that you must not put up rules that might be moved by the other part...if so are done...you will only get more fight.

You might start by putting together a family meeting once or twice in the week.....where you all discuss how every normal task shall be done....try to include all....but have a strategy so they don't manage to transfer all back to you.

Tell them that they in the end all will benefit from it...the harmony will be greater...and they all learn that to run a home takes a lot of work...and that it is wrong to depend on one person to do it all.

Another big Grandpa hug and Good luck

Posts: 1580 · Posted: Wed Oct 17, 2007 12:39 pm

Big (((((((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))))))) and I have to agree with Grandpa ...set some rules and time JUST for you! You are special and deserve some time JUST for you...take a bubble bath while your partner helps with the kids

Relax...enjoy life with every breath you take...look for all the blessings in your life...write them down on paper...I think you will be surprised how many blessings you DO have

Posts: 635 · Posted: Wed Oct 17, 2007 12:53 pm

ok sweetie,frist you let the kids take all the toys out they want but after they finish they put it away if they dont you start throwing it away,it will teach them to pick up after themselfs,i know how messy it gets i had 3 boys ,each other 3 years away.second you tell hubby you need help its ok to be in computer .after he gives you a hand.third you start loving your self taking some time 4 you.its hard but you have to achive it .i know i did my baby is 23 years old.good n positive enery to you love lluvia(sonia)

Posts: 1011 · Posted: Wed Oct 17, 2007 1:33 pm

I dont really have any advice but i agree with the others here....Heres a *huggle* from me and my positive thoughts to you at this stressful/crazy time.

Tamara :o)