Hi Everyone..am new to this site and I find it very educative..

Am feeling very low for quite some time now and just have to get it out of my system..please bear with me.

I have been married for almost 3 years now to a wonderful person. He's everything that I could ever ask for- ours is a love marriage. I am 8 months pregnant now..

Before we got married he did tell me that he and his best friend really liked each other other since college( a girl whom he knows for almost 10 years now ). But since both of them couldnt tell each other, it remained unrequited. She is married since 2002 and is blessed with a 4 year old daughter and that was the worst period my husband had to go through.( he has venus in the 12th house)

Both moved on, I met my husband at work- we are very happy with each other. Problem is his best friend and her husband /family dont get along and have frequent disputes and she comes crying to my husband. I know they are friends..but this has started to bother me a lot. I know that my husband loves me a lot but I cant help feeling insecure and that maybe she was the right one for him and I fear that a lot.

I dont know if I am just acting silly or my pregnancy hormones are acting up..

This has been troubling me a lot recently ad is really causing me mental turmoil..

I really am lost and dont know what to do..:(

Just wanted to vent it all out..

Thnaks for bearing with me..

A Biig  Biiiigg Grandpa hug to you...and yes I can understand you and because of your pregnancy your feelings for this will be stronger.

Always have in mind that he chose you as his wife, and always have in mind that friendship can be strong but not always are of the sexual kind.
If we allow our thoughts to spin around this subject, well then for us it will feel as real and we suffer a lot and in our suffering we destroy our marriage.

Since this have started to trouble you I recommend that you speak to your husband about it.
Tell him that you love him much and you can understand that those two have a very good friendship, but that it sometimes can hurt you to see them so "narrow" and that even if you don't want to, you start to wonder if she is the right one for him?

Well I am sure you can do it better then me...but the most important thing with this conversation is that you get it out of your chest...so it stop burning you...and I think...if he is as you say...then he will understand you better and maybe change the way he approach his friendship.

I wish you good luck with the great event in a months time and I wish you all a good and lasting marriage

I think that you really have to express yourself and your discomfort. If you keep hiding it, they (your husband and his "best pal") think that you are okay with it and continue with their disregard for your feelings.
Even if after you tell them they still could not care less about it, since the thought has already been said out into the Universe, one day, they will feel unconfortable as other friends will be talking about them behind their backs and who knows maybe her problems with her husband is her rather tactless need to always look up your husband.
She has forgotten that she is a married woman and there is some decorum and ethics that suits a lady of her status i.e. married.
If I were you, I would not only tell it to your husband, I will tell it in front of her too so that she will wake up to reality! Even if not, she will squirm uncomfortably when she sees you instead of you fuming silently .
Big Hug and Only You can Stand UP For YOURSELF!. Go Gurl!

You guys are the best..thanks so much!!

Yes, I agree I need to talk to him about him..I just dont want to hurt him or seem like an over-possessive wife ( I do have a scorpio asc )..

Thank you ...

Lots of love