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Posts: 27 · Posted: Tue Aug 07, 2007 6:20 am

I am a pisces and I have been in your shoes. There was a time in my life when I was so wrapped up in what was going on around me that I completely and utterly forgot one thing.......

GOD LOVES ME NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!!!

...people will let us down, they will step on our hearts and leave us drained and exhausted and alone. Most people are selfish and don't give a damn about others, they will take what you let them take and they will tell you what you want to hear. I know this, I was a dormat for many years until I realized that God said that every human being on this planet "was fearfully and wonderfully made in his image". Do you know what that means, it means that if we are made in his image that we are "more than a conqueror", that we are "covered in his blood" and that if we just believe in him that we can and will be protected. That means your mind, body and soul will be protected from all outside negative forces. I don't know what your religious beliefs are or what God you pray to if any, I do know that prayer works. Prayer has gotten me back on the right track of not worrying about choosing the right man because God will do that for me. He will send that special someone in my life, I don't have to worry about that task. I don't have to worry about choosing the right job, he will do that for me. I don't have to worry about my child, he will protect him and keep him safe too. I had to learn the hard way that life is only hard if you make it hard and that if our focus is placed in God's hands at all times, then nothing that we do or say should be done in an ungodly manner. God doesn't "bless mess". He honors those who honor his words. Try stepping back from your problems for a moment and ask for guidance from your God. Don't feel like you're alone in this struggle. God will bring the right people to you in the right time. Just open your heart to the blessings that are awaiting you. ASK, SEEK, AND KNOCK ON THE DOOR OF GOD'S HEART, he will hear you and you will be in a much better place emotionally, physically, mentally, and otherwise. Don't beat yourself up, don't waste another minute letting the negative forces of life drain you from your self-worth....life wasn't meant to be a struggle....I am sending you a big hug and I will put you in my prayers....just know and believe that.....GOD'S GOT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 602 · Posted: Wed Aug 08, 2007 5:03 pm

Hi stephsmith,

I'd like to start off with a big hug for you and to tell you that you're going to get through this just like you have gotten through every other obstacle in your life. You have to believe this, because if you reflect on your past, you know you have made it through and there is light at the end of the tunnel each time. There will be light at the end of this tunnel as well, I promise you. Life is cyclic and it has it's ups and downs and this is a down time. But what goes down must come up eventually.

I'm not sure where you live but ADHD or even ADD is a difficult but you can find a rhythm and help is available if you are in the USA, I am not sure about other countries. However, if your son is not receiving aid because you don't think you can afford it, the local school districts in your area can direct you as well as local organizations who fund help for children if they are not receiving the care they need to help them get through it. You also may want to search some forums for children who have ADHD and ADD for support, advice and tips on diet which can really affect a child diagnosed with ADD or ADHD. I personally believe too many children are being diagnosed and labeled as having a disease when it could be a simple change in their diet, constructive discipline, focus and getting them involved in activities they really enjoy. That is not to say it your case, but personally I have noticed 7 out of 10 of my friends kids have been diagnosed with it, to me that is a very high number in comparison to the generation I grew up in. If you haven't found any forums or local organizations that can help you free, please send me a PM and I would be more than happy to help you research it.

Your separation is so fresh that of course you are going to feel angry, confused, betrayed, and the whole kit and kabootle of emotions that accompany the different phases you are feeling moment to moment. Your wounds are still fresh, so one day you're going to feel fine, the next a different emotion will surface and it's a part of the coping mechanism and healing part of moving forward because you're still bouncing back and forth with emotional tides. It's not easy what you are going through, I can only imagine how overwhelmed you must feel at times, especially with your responsibilities and I do not envy your position at all. But I do know you will survive this, come out stronger, wiser and things WILL get better.. it's just going to take time. And don't carry this burden by yourself, share it... talk about it because it is unhealthy to keep it all inside of you.

As for the two men, don't worry about who to choose right now. Just enjoy your life... if you are interested in both, there is no law that says a single woman has to be exclusive with anyone, or that you have to choose one or the other. If you enjoy both their company, date both and enjoy their company and the attention you are getting, it will boost your self-esteem, and you'll have an enjoyable day or night out with hopefully some good conversation and laughs, which is good for the soul. If you want, be clear with them that you aren't ready for anything serious right now... and remember, you don't have to explain yourself to anyone, you only have one keeper and that's you; they aren't your keeper so you owe no one an explanation unless you feel you want to share it. Just enjoy yourself, the company and have fun, you deserve to have that.

Things will get better, it's just going to take time... ::big hugs::

Angelique

Posts: 11 · Posted: Sat Aug 11, 2007 3:39 am

Hi Im sending you a huge bubble of love and light from Melbourne Australia and YES I do know why you've even bothered to 'emote' here, you really really needed to and Im sure you'll get a lot of loving helpful advice and healing as a consequence.

First go easy on yourself, three young children at your age is a huge responsibility let alone achievement, and yes you probably do have a bit of Post partum depression, plus with a husband's treatment of you like that, no doubt a lot of grief has set in...anger itself is really an externalising of suppressed grief, and why wouldnt you have felt that - having been abandoned during a pregnancy? As a naturopath and nutritionist myself I concur with what Evie posted, in that although money is very tight, ITS VERY VERY IMPORTANT THAT BOTH YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN GET NUTRTIOUS FOOD, because just because one eats doesnt mean they are being properly nourished. Therefore in AHDD its been proven that FOOD COLORINGS, ADDITIVES, PRESERVATIVES AND DEVITALISED FOODS, like white flour, white sugars especially and icecream etc set off the temper tantrums of the kids.

I know money is very tight, but truly I've proved over and over again that excellent nutrition can come from very cheap but wholesome foods. Replace white rice with brown rice, cook in hot water and a bit longer, use OATS to make porridge and homemade muesli (adding cornflakes and sultanas), give the kids dried fruits, apricots, sultanas etc instead of sweets, use watered down natural fruit juices (pineapple is excellent) instead of any cordials or syrups, go easy on whole milk and use more yogurt and cheeses. Making casseroles with kideny beans, or lentils is highly nutritous and good meat replacement - plus using tuna and especially salmon (which is very high in OMEGA 3 and proven to ease ADDH and improve memory) is especially good, even if in tins and cheap.
IF you can afford FLAXSEED OIL (or Linseed as its called sometimes) and take it yourself 1 teasp twice per day, and give to the children 1/2 teaspoon twice a day, maybe in a litte milk...then this is very high i Omega 3, Omega 6 and OMEGA 9 and will give great improvement to your health.

On a final note - try and take some quiet time to nurture and love yourself, a bubble bath AND and an early night - do wonders to nurture the spirit. Plus, although its great for you to get the admiration of a couple of guys....seriously ask yourself whether you are healthy enough emotionally and mentally to enter into a friendship with either - try to look at the ramifications of it all, whether or not it could bring problems or not.
MEANWHILE - they (whovever 'they' are) say that our High Self, soul, or whatever, never gives us more than we can handle, and that we've chosen for whatever reasons the situations for the learnings we need in this lifetime. However, I believe its right to get all the help one can but also to recognise at the same time the 'gifts' that must be there somewhere. You have done an amazing job already bringing three new wonderful beings into this world, never downgrade your part in the scheme of things...in the words of Desideralda "...you are a child of the universe, YOU have a right to be here etc."

love and light, Versaille

Posts: 11 · Posted: Sat Aug 11, 2007 3:45 am

Hi from Versaille, again..........I forgot a PS, as a practioner I've found that Flower essences, the Bach ones
and the FES ones do wonders for the emotional upsets so even if you can only get hold of Rescue Remedy, then
so be it, that would do you a lot of good...drug free remedies.

OR you could call a practioner a homoeopath or naturopath and ask if you could just purchase a few of them of
them or where to purchase the rescue remedy (some practioners, IF they know that money is tight , will let you
just buy some of the remedy without charging a consultation fee.

Hope this is helpful to you, love and light Versaille

Posts: 1248 · Posted: Wed Aug 15, 2007 2:45 pm

here is a huge hug for u sweetie