Hey Guys:
I love my mother dearly however either she has changed or I am just now opening up to her behavior.  I am a single parent and I am selling my home and moving.  My mother agreed to keep my eight year old son for six weeks so I could pack and get organized and also take a solo vacation before we move.  I will not have the support in my new community so I won't be able to take the little breaks that I usually do.  At anyrate in the middle of the second week my mother informs me that she can't keep him for the whole six weeks and I need to bring home around week four.  When I informed her that I would be out of the country she just started saying that she is 67 years old and blah blah blah.  I sent for him that weekend this really hurt my feelings that she would not keep her commiment.  This is her only grand child and we are moving out of the country.  I got pass that and today she just called me and asked me to borrow money because she doesn't want to touch the money she has in the bank.  My mother knows that I closed my business and I am living off of the sale of some real estate.  What is this about?  I told her that it is not about the money.  Why is she asking to borrow money when she already has money.  Just recently she loaned me money for my sons school tutuin which I just paid back.  I do not understand this behavior.  The sum she wanted is small and not the point I told her that when I sell my house I would loan it to her but also told her that it doesen't make since that some one with money in the bank is asking to borrow money so they don't have to touch theirs.  By the way the money is for her burial plot.  Thanks for letting me get this out.....

First of all I will give you a big Grandpa hug and maybe also a big hug to your mother.

It's hard for us to evaluate this situation....because we don't know how active your son is or the state of your mothers health.
I am 63 and when we have two of our Grand children for a weekend  (5 and 8)....I am almost ready to collapse even if they are 2 nice children.

To say that since you shall move then she shall endure more is just what I will call a "wild thought", we are not any battery that can be charged.

Ultimate is you as mother the one that must look for your child, just like your parents did for you.
A vacation is no valid reason, if you put your mother in a bad situation...then you better stay at home...or take your son with you...like many other parents.

I am not doing this to "scold" you....I am doing this in order for you to give your mother another thought and maybe see it from another view.
After all she is the one who have brought you up and it seems she have given you much love....maybe time to pay some of it back

Good luck

I am sending you a HUGE hug - I do hope you find the inner strength to cope with the situation.

Brightest Blessings

Sarah

How exciting for you to be moving and getting a fresh start in a new country.  Can i ask where you are going for your vacation!? Sounds like a blast and a great opportunity to relax and explore the world and yourself! Might i suggest that perhaps you can find annother person to watch your son for a week? That way your mom can rest after watching him for a couple weeks and then after a week or so she can finish watching him for the rest of your time away? There is always a way to make every problem a win-win situation if you are willing to compromise.
Love and good luck!
~MeganLee

here is a huge hug for u sweetie gd luck