I know this topic is over 3 months old but thought I would just let you guys know what happened.
I now think the person that I originally posted about was sent to me to do exactly what he did, break down my walls, to allow me to accept a new partner into my life, albeit with a few complications lol, without all the confusion that I felt when I first wrote this post. I still talk with this guy and we have become firm friends, which I really cherish.
I'd like to thank all of you who sent me hugs, I really did feel them coming through

and they helped me enormously when I needed it so here's one for all you wonderful people who make up Mystic {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}