Well, this corks it....I have been given the blame completely for issues my children have that resulted from their father's abuse, while he got off scott free and continues to abuse them during unsupervised access. I started volunteering at the school in my kids class at request of the teacher. My son has had behavioural issues off and on at the school for about 2 years now. The principal has come along now and informed me I can no longer volunteer at the school because she thinks my participation in the classroom is causing his behaviours that have been there all along.

TL

Angelmama, Don't give up. Go to poetry and read my poem "Before it's to late to say a prayer" change the words to feel like you are reading it for your self and please have faith. I know just how you are feeling. Not exactly the same situation but definitely the same subject. If you need someone to talk with I'm always here. Maybe we can find a special path for you to go down so others find out the truth. In Crystals there is a post about a crystal that brings out the truth in people, I don't recall what it is but have a look for you also. I believe most children will play up when parent is around a opposded to someone they are not completely familiar with. Most Grandparents (my Mum) tells me that my children are really well behaved and adorable angels when she has them. They are adorable angels but aren't that well behaved at home or wherever else they are with me. That's Kids.
Anyway I won't go on as it is 11.05 pm here and my 21/2 yo is sitting next to me half asleep, wanting Mummy LOL.
Speak to you soon.
Sending you Heavenly Hugs and Golden Light.
Libby (LibB)      


New note: if someone says something that is false and you are being victimized say these words: I ACKNOWLEDGE WHAT YOU'RE SAYING BUT I DON'T ACCEPT IT!!! and leave it at that. This has actually worked for me. The surprised feeling you get is totally amazing. Have a go, see what happens.

A Big hug to you and and a lots of hugs to your kids who are the real victim in this case.

It's not a good message to get from school....and I am sure it has been hard for them to give it too.

I am sure you are a good mother....and as such you will protect your children.

Maybe your job at school can be "a little bit over protecting" because of your situation. This will then have influence both on your child and those around him.
Kids can be cruel, and if you are overprotecting your son...he will suffer when you aren't there.
There is much that goes around in the brain to a kid....maybe the principal have seen that it's better he is trying to cop with it inside what school have to offer,
since you will have him all the time outside school.

But the most important thing is how your kids feel about it, we as adult can be angry....but we should be able to understand if we give it a thought...not seen from us...but from them.

Many times when a marriage goes...or as you say ..there have been abuse....then we are always in an attack possision......that we must not do.

Another big hug...and good luck to you!

"MOTHER" the word itself has greatest power on EARTH, believe in yourself and your issue will be handled easily.

With lots of HUGS...

I'm sorry Angelmama, I missed your post but am here now, I wish you well and hope the Universe can see the pain that you are going through and give you peace. I'm sending you a {{{BIG SAMSON HUG}}} to comfort you in this time of need.