sorry this is a long one

One of my friends is currently going through a messed up depressive stage. He is living in a reidential all at a university and is one of the senior residence so his job is to make sure everyone stays inline stick to the rules etc.

The kids there are shockers and are drunk and make loads of noise most nights and totally ignore all staff members and are making it hard for those who need and want to study to do so. Everyone who lives there are old enough to know what is or isn't acceptable which frustrates him more.

Not only all this he is all messed up about the whole relationship thing between me and him as we used to be together but broke up and as far as i thought we were just friends but now he's asking about whats going to happen with us once he moves away. I am confused as he was the one that broke off the relationship.

This is hard to deal with and he is now pushing me away and not wanting to deal with anything. He is also doing this with one of his good friends at uni we are all at a loss to why he is doing this.

I am confused by his actions and it is making me upset, i also have noidea about what i can do to help him.

I believe he is stressed out because his aunty has cancer and is giving up on living but at this stage i believe i can help as my father died from cancer last year and i can understand what it is like to see a family member go through this.

well enough from me

You need a lot of Bear hugs from me and maybe your friend do it too.

What you tell about him driving friends away does fit an depressive state of mind....I am no specialist but from what I have read this is the case.

When you are down, you feel that no one understand you and will seldom listen to what we will call "reason."

I think it's important to stay as friend, and if his state of mind is depressive try to "lead" him to help....sorry to say in todays society more and more need such help.

Good luck and another big Hug.

a huge hug from me too:) u need to be calm and cool..if u need to help ur friend..  y dont u take him out and talk it out?

I'm giving you a Samson Hug.

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