Hello respected astrologers,

I am a 31 yr old guy and for the last 4yrs i have been hoping/trying to find that special person to marry and settle down. I have had 2 relationships and in each case it did not work out for practical reasons. Early this year I fell so strongly in love with this girl and we were in a relationship for 7 months. The relationship had great potential and i thought she could be the one to settle down with even though there were cultural differences. But recently she broke up with me saying that she could not find herself to love me deeply enough (meaning the way she had loved someone else before me!). It was a horrible breakup that hurt me like never before. I feel like i can never find someone like her again.

Why am i having such a hard time to find that special girl i would like to marry and settle down with? Will i ever find someone as special as the girl who broke up with me recently?

Mystic, CT (US): 41n21, 71w58, Connecticut
Time: 9.48 pm Eastern Daylight Time

Love is something that we as witches try and control, however, i think that it is something that we can't... we can only pray to the heavens on it... so as i sit here and meditate, i will ask the heavens this question for you... and the answer will come to you... not me... for i will ask them to send the answer to you... so look out...

Thank you for the prayers Ahti.

I guess i am just in such a confused state because when everything seems right or seems to fall into place......a sudden unexpected twist happens which is so crushing and negates all positive efforts and steps that were taken to make a relationship successful!

Hi Jedi, while I can't tell you why you're having such a hard time, I can see where there will be opportunity a bit later on.

In this horoscope, you're the Moon who is in detriment in the Seventh house.  This seems to sum you up quite nicely as someone who is upset and confused about love matters.  The Moon does hold some dignity in Capricorn at night, so I feel this shows that you at least have your faculties about you enough to try to move on in a healthy way, which is good.  While this doesn't really hold any new information in and of itself, it does validate me in thinking that this is the appropriate chart for your situation.  The Moon has recently passed a Square to Venus who I'm thinking would indicate your last girlfriend.  How long ago did the break up occur?  I feel it could be useful in timing later on to know this.  The next aspect the Moon makes is a Square to Mercury in Libra, I feel this is important because I think it may signify a new relationship for you.  However, I don't see this relationship going very well.  Mercury is in its own Triplicity and Term with no reception with the Moon (you), and you don't have any reception with Mercury either, so while there may be a contact and a prospective romantic interest, I don't see it going very far as you'll eventually split.  However, after that I see things getting a lot better as the Moon will then aspect Saturn, lord of the Seventh house of love and partners.  

Saturn receives the Moon by dignity and the Moon receives Saturn by triplicity, so there's some very good reception going on here.  The Moon and Saturn will meet by a Trine, which indicates an easy introduction and interaction, it doesn't look like there are going to be any mix-ups or differences that can't be resolved here.  This looks like it could be your next good relationship, and your next chance at finding what you're looking for.

Unfortunately I can't really give you a time table without knowing when your last relationship ended, because it seems like there's a time system worked into this chart already and knowing when you two split will help me figure that out. :S  Complicated, I know.

Take care.

Hi Rigel.

That was a very interesting read. The exact date when she told me about her decision to breakup was on Tuesday, 29 Sept 2009, place: 41n46, 72w41, Connecticut,USA  .......around 8.30 pm Eastern Daylight time.

You said something intriguing......that i am someone "who is upset and confused about love matters".

I do not know if this info will help too. I met a Shaman for the first time ever on 28th Sept 2009. I asked the Shaman about my sweetheart and why i loved her so much. I was told that my sweetheart and i have known each other through several previous lives......... and in EVERY previous life we were romantically involved BUT we could never get together as husband and wife due to circumstances at that time in each birth. There were other things said which i thought explained to me why i loved her so much. In the shaman's own words...."there is a possibility that you both could work it out now but the next year of your relationship would be very very difficult due to the similarity in both of your spiritual energies".  

When i told her all this she told me that she could not feel that "soul to soul" connection. She had been trying to find that connection for the last 4-5 months (of our 7-8 month relationship) and could not find herself falling in love with me the way she had in her previous relationship with another guy before me! I told her she would probably need more time to feel that but she didn't think so.

As shocked and miserable as i felt.........i knew that love has to come on its own and cannot be "forced" by expectations......even though i wanted it so much. I knew our relationship would have been a tough cross-cultural relationship but i felt i had the strength and determination to make it work.....and i knew she would have it too....only if she loved me as much as i loved her.

Confusing ....absolutely!! I have never let myself fall in a situation where i am "helplessly in love" with someone. I always felt my previous breakups had made me "emotionally stronger" and no one could hurt me again. But this was the worst. For the first time i could understand what depression feels like. I was "lifeless" for 2 weeks....a state of mind that i have seen some people be in.....but never expected to find myself like that.  Fortunately i have mostly a positive lifestyle and practice of meditation which did help me to get out of that 2 week sick period. This has never happened to me before.

I am sure there are people who have probably gone through worse than i have.....and i do not want to sound like a man who has lost so much. I don't want to be cribbing......but the whole thing was very strange and i am trying t find answers spiritually.

More confusing was.........why did i only feel that strong connection and why didn't she feel the same.....assuming that the past life reading by the Shaman was right? What is this karma? Did i hurt her in a similar manner in our previous life? Or....as per a book i read called "The Ascendant" by Sam Geppi......i am supposed to learn dettachment in this life. What kind of logic is this where a human being is given all these emotions and then is to learn dettachment!!??

Based on karma i know attachment can bind me to her in future incarnations. So i am trying to understand how i can break away from this. So yes i am very confused and so I am so keen on finding answers, and what is my destiny.....and how can i change my karma/destiny for this life and my future incarnation. I am trying to find if there is any truth in - you love only once and only person for the rest of your life. I didn't want to go from one relationship to another....i just wanted meet one right person and settle down.....as is done in my culture by millions of people. I am trying to understand the difference between free will and destiny......and how knowledge of this can alter our future now and in next lives.

I hope it makes sense now why i am so confused about love, relationships, reality and spiritual life......unless i am just talking all senseless rubbish!