Hi Genifer,

It can all depend om the womans cycle.  So based on a 28 day cycle being four weeks then the optimum time for a woman to fall pregnant is around the 11-16th day .  It is calculated from the very first day of your period showing.  So then it would be the best time to have sex fourteen days after the satrt of your last period.  So for the man to have the strongest most viable amount of sperm ideally he would not have masturbated or made love within three days and sex would be best on the 11th then again on the 14th and then the 16th.  As sperm lives inside the fallopian tubes for up to 72 hours it is not necessary to have it everyday infact it decreases sperm.

There are other ways to determine if you are ovulating and that is through normal secretions.  This is if you are like many women and your cycle is not regular.  So If it is like eggs white all smooth and slippery then it means you are ovulating.  the reason it is like this is it helps the sperm get through and is not very acidic etc. Where as just before or after a period secretions can become thick and tacky this is not a good environment for sperm etc so you know you are not ovulating at this time.  Many people therefore use the billing method which takes a high interest in the temp of you and the look and consistency of your fluids etc.  This can be used to abstain from love when you dont want to fall pregnant or used to help in conception.

Hope that helps

Hi Genifer

There is a web site that you can go to do download software that helps you track yr cycle and when yr expected ovulation would occur.  When I was thinking of having a baby I found www.fertilityfriend.com which was great.  There's also  another program I think called Ovusoft that does the similar thing.

I too was overweight and dietting when I fell pregnant.  I was eating lots of unprocessed foods and lots of pumpkin seeds, pine nuts, and I htinki it was sunflower seeds or something like that.  Things with relative high levels of folic acid.  I was also taking something similar to Elevit.  Im not sure that the tablets did anything much other than help with morning sickness really but I fell pregnant late in my cycle I think it was which resulted in my beautiful girl.  And Im very proud to say it was success at first pop too at the ripe old age of 42 so not bad really!! (and self insemination too) lol  Libby was my chosen one.  Thats another story anyway.

So good luck.  I think eat healthy, keep up yr folic acid, and dont think so hard about it.  Dont make trying to fall pregnant the only reason you have sex.  The other thing you could do to rule out any medical reasons is go have a check up if you havent already done so.

wow it is great to hear that you are expecting once again!

Best of Luck both for you and your partner and thank you so very much for your first hand advice.

hope you give birth to a healthy baby girl (as you expect).

actually see, i m having my moon blood right now. so you say that having sex right after it gets over will have me pregnant? and what if i have it 3-4 days before my moon blood?

Looking forward for a reply.

Have a nice time.

wow it is great to hear that you are expecting once again!

Best of Luck both for you and your partner and thank you so very much for your first hand advice.

hope you give birth to a healthy baby girl (as you expect).

actually see, i m having my moon blood right now. so you say that having sex right after it gets over will have me pregnant? and what if i have it 3-4 days before my moon blood?

Looking forward for a reply.

Have a nice time.

No we were just lucky I guess.
I have heard that some times your moon blood does not get rid of all the eggs from your last ovulation and one can be left behind.  So I am guessing that is what happened to me, actually I think it was probably a week after my moon blood. I ovulate exactly 14 days after it finishes, so that goes into a whole new section of pregnancy.  I have a friend who is a nurse and when she was trying to fall pregnant for the first time they only had sex at certain times of her cycle, to improve the chances of having a girl which they did.
This is what I have been told:
If you have sex on the first couple of days of ovulation you are more like to have a boy as boy sperm does not last as long as girl sperm.
If you have sex at the end of ovulation you will more like have a girl as they last longer.
If you have sex before ovulation starts, if you fall pregnant you will more likely have a girl.

I was always under the asumption that if you have sex in the period of time of end of moon blood and ovulation your chances of falling pregnant are very slim.  Well I certainly blew that theory out to water didn't I...lol

I would stick to your ovulation times though as there is more chance of pregnancy then.

Gods I only have 10 weeks to go, then the sleepless night begin again...lol It is all worth the while.