I love being ogled at, same as I like getting a bunch of flowers _ seriously, no joke.
So here goes ladies, tell your man he has a nice bum and watch him preen.

Try to get a copy of "the Secret" and put some of this stuff into practice and you will see a difference. As a guy I can tell you that you are loved and beautiful, but guys seldom think it is important to say so, I don't know why but we all suffer the same way.....I must tell my wife how beautiful she really is...

Men have to know how to cherish their significant other even after marriage! Courtship doesn't end after the wedding!! :P

I think being ogled at depends also on how the attention is being given In general, if they are respectful, it's a great ego-booster! I have some married friends who similarly enjoy attention from the opposite sex. Their opinions change drastically when the attention is showered upon them in the wrong ways, though! (Nobody wants to feel like just another piece of meat, after all.)

I think it largely depends on the person concerned. Think about it. Even if a woman is ogled at multiple times, but all of it has come from ugly men, do you think it'll act as an ego-booster? Do you think she'll be flattered? Far from it, she might convince herself she's hideous, which is why she's attracting a similar crowd.

OTOH, just a harmless little wink from a handsome fella could act as an ego-booster. So it's NOT the act itself, but the person involved in the act that may or may not function as an ego-booster.

Something to ponder over, ladies.

I think that's a valid point, however I'm hesitant to agree 100% with what you said subsequently. Certainly, it could apply to many women, but it would be a generalization that it's only about appearance.

To use myself as an example, a compliment is a compliment whomever it comes from. To judge the quality of the compliment based on the appearance of the complimenter is a tad shallow and insulting to them, in my honest opinion.

If a handsome hunk ogled at me as if I were a piece of meat, I would not think of him any better if it were a less-appealing man who did the same thing. If a less-appealing man winked at me, I would still blush similarly if it were a handsome man.

Overall, to be fair, since appearances do matter to some people, it would be fair to say that it's a combination of factors. Let's not get into the specifics, because it's really skewing from the original topic of this thread  But good point, and it certainly adds to understanding the dynamics of what makes a gesture flattering.