I have a question. Lets say that what a person does before one gets married. And the other finds out about what you've done several years later. Should that person be listening to gossip and reprimanding you for it?
What do you guys think?

Well is it something that could affect you and their relationship in the future? If so, then yes the person has every right to be upset about it because it could eventually affect them.  If not, then it is really none of their business and I really don't think they should be reprimanding you for it because by doing this they have insulted what has made you the person you are today, whether it be wrong, right, silly, etc.  And they have married you for what you are today not what you were back then.

Anyway that is my two cents on the topic.

thank you for your honesty. What i had done was not what i call bad. i had just gotten out of a 9 year marriage that was not a happy one. i think i went over the deep end so to speak. started drinking and partying and having lots of lovers. my husband that i have now knew this before marring me. hell if it had been him and he could of gotten away with it he would of done it. its alright for some men to have all the fun but when a woman does it oh my GOD. i never acted like that before in my life. and what my parents had to say about it, that wasnt good either. they felt like i was on a suicide mission and i wasnt gonna stop until i was dead. when in fact i already was.

i agree with Sophie, ur husband married u for what u r today.. ur past is gone and over with. he shdnt be digging into ur past at any cost..nor even asking or listening to anyone. and i think u shd make this very clear to him.

past is now your past but the most important thing is that what you have learnt from you past mistake do not repeat them.