Do you believe that you need to be disciplined to become successful???

Dear Swetha,

Do I believe that you need to be disciplined to be successful?

Yes up to a point beyond which too much discipline can restrict and suffocate the person's development, self discipline can only most effectively be learned by first having to live within other people's limitations, and according to other people's rules.

Lack of adequate self discipline and control will almost inevitably lead to anything but success in life. But on the other hand too much discipline and control can devastate a person's self confidence, and "kill" their fighting spirit.

Getting the balance just right between too little and too much of these building blocks of success is a formidable task for any parent or person in a position of authority to have to take on, but increased responsibility for finding that balance point always goes hand in hand with us having that greater power or control.

Is there any particular reason in your own life or on your website, with regards to why you have asked this question at this specific moment in time?

I am picking up that this query is a highly personal question, rather than it being merely a general interest or curiosity one. I cannot easily just turn off or stop reading people, especially people such as yourself who I feel a strong connection with in wanting to help them.

I sincerely apologise if this unintentionally makes you feel uncomfortable answering this on the forum, but sometimes I cannot help or stop myself wanting to know and be of some practical assistance to a friend.

From EoT

Hi EOT,
I totally agree with you. Actually its a very simple thing which I have posted millions of times!
For eg.. waking up in the morning.. I am suffering from severe backpain for which the doc has prescribed exercise and yoga. I do it for a week, feel good, work better and then laziness catches up and I start waking up late.. I am tired, cant open my eyes ectetc )
And I felt till I wake up and do it.. I shall only dream of things I want to do but not actually achieve them..
that's why the question!

It is maybe strange, but ONLY YOU can define what success is for you....none other....because success can not be measured in money or values...ONLY in your own feelings.

many times you might hear from other that someone have had success in life, but that is not the same as at they have the same comprehension of it.

So yes, In order for you to have success, you must put up goals...first when you have reached one goal, and are pleased with it, will you have the feeling that you have succeeded.

To succeed by chance, might bring some happiness...but if you haven't made it as a task on beforehand...you will not have the same experience about achieving something....even playing lotto is a task...the winning is a chance...and this show how hard it is to acheive success, when you let chance control your way.....even if you use discipline to play each week  

Good one.. the right balance which is I guess everyone's problem
I am too much of a control freak.. or the other extreme )

Easy to be lazy.. but we need to get over it.