we all are human beings and we have our own views to express... since this subject is somewhere related to everyone if not it will be related in near future for younger generation... come on guys start answering now... I am lil bit confused in this topic... Your valuable input helps me to conclude in my life!

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Ramesh

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When each of us is raised in love, we know love when we recognize it in others.  That is how we can trust our own instincts.  

There are many reasons for marriage and sometimes there are shortcuts that do not include love.  Without love in a relationship it soon withers and dies.

I wouldn't like to be forced into any relationship, marriage least of all BUT love is a multitude of desires and it can be subjective.  Marriage is a limitation of love in some respects, so how it comes about and is maintained really is subjective too.  I think marriage means different things to different cultures so I wouldn't judge to say one way works better than any other but choice does appear to be the best option whether it works out for the best or not.

Couples marry for all sorts of reasons, many people are fortunate to pick and choose a partner but that doesn't mean they'll make a good choice... a lot are incompatable and don't last.   If it comes down to happiness, we don't always know what we want and when we get it we often change our minds.

I think arranged marriages are generally well supported by the family but if the partnership is less than comfortable, getting out of that bind isn't much of an option and is probably social suicide for some families.  

Everyone is different though so what works for one person won't work for another.  You can only hope you get it right for you.

Love is a deeper quality than expressed in human terms.  It goes deep within the soul.  Loveless relationships wither and die.

An Aglican minister writing in our local newspaper made an interesting observation.  

There are 3 marriages in life:
The first is in the passion of youth when all is wine and roses.

The second is a melding together of all energies and efforts to create a family tie and bond.

The third is a companion in our old age.  Seek someone with a sense of humor - all else fades with age.

And isn't it wonderful when all 3 are present in the one relationship.