Hello all!!


I have been struggling with this for some time.. Some days I am ok with it and other days it gets me down a little bit..

I am Wiccan and am still learning alot about the wiccan ways but am happy where I am.. I don't have many people face to face that have wiccan beliefs and I'm pretty solitary when it comes to that anyway.. So my network is mainly online which suits me better as I can't get out alot right now due to study and my little boy.. I expected people to judge me and look at me like I'm some evil person.. They give me such a look of almost pure horror *laughs*.. I guess a lack of understanding creates that view,maybe? But what I am worried about is my son and when he starts kinder and later on,school etc... I do not want to hide who I am,I don't want to live a lie and I'd rather be upfront with others.. I don't really just go up and tell others my beliefs but they sort of pick it up anyway.. It would really get to me if my son was teased or picked on because of his mother.. But I want to raise him with the beliefs that you should be who you are and want to be,no matter what others say or how they treat you.. I'm not worried for me,I have always been an outcast.. But I was bullied in school for being different and that is also my fear for my son.. Even my own family after learning this about me have changed,not all of them but alot..

So my boy starts kinder/pre-school in 2010 so I have been wondering how I will go about this..

I am proud of who I am.. I'm being real with myself.. But is there situations I should hide this part of me or just don't worry about what they think?? ... If anyone went through the same sort of thing,how did you overcome such issues?


Brightest blessings... xoxo.

Hello Soul_Flower,

Magic is neither virtuous nor wicked.
When you add ritual to magic you can run into the danger hit by all the great religions. Is it the ritual or the spirit behind the ritual which really matters?
Some amazingly strong and educated minds have made the basic mistake, forgetting that it is the practitioner that really matters.
You write as a good and caring person, why should you and your son not be protected?
Who can promise a life free from disagreeable experience? even if you are protected by good spiritual practices?
Any experience can lead to our benefit (even bullying) if we learn the lesson (whatever that may be).
If you have faith why should you need to thrust your beliefs at those who don't? You should not need their approval and may well not get it.
If you have faith why should you be concerned by the disbelief of others? If you respect their beliefs will they not respect yours?
Your son will probably make his own place in the World, as children have been doing for countless generations.
May I wish you peace and ease of mind, you and your son are not alone - as I'm sure you know.

Regards,

Mike

Hey Soul flower you got a cute profile picture.

You are beautiful within and your son has a great mother.
This is all what matters and nothing can destroy that despite how much life can be hard.We all struggle differently but we struggle and come out victorious.

hugs n love,
dhav ;)

The question shall not be :Can People accepting me for who I am?

The question is : Can I accept what I am?

If the answer is yes...then keep your head high, and live the way where you can accept YOUR action.

You can never get all to accept you as you is....so it is no use to try....but if you show compassion and understanding for other, other might do the same back to you.

You will never avoid envy, you will never avoid talk behind your back, because some people use it as fuel to promote themselves....that is why you must be secure on yourself, then it will not hurt so much, as if you turn the question around!

Good luck

Mike Voyce - Thankyou for your reply.. You make alot of sense and I have been thinking about it.. Perhaps the real problem is that I haven't come to terms with myself yet.. I haven't said to myself or felt that it is ok to be me and it's ok to be different.. I think in the past when others judged me and didn't like who I was or whatever,I may have thought it was because of my beliefs? And then in the end I doubted them which is wrong but I guess I had to do that in order to know it is all ok.. .. At times I can think too much and worry alot.. I understand everything is as it is meant to be and everything happens for a reason.. I also know that my son has his own path and lessons and all that happens in his life is as it should be.. I guess I am a little scared of meeting new people too and how they will accept me.. I never judge another person for their beliefs,I am open and friendly and I hope that shines through.. In the end they will act and do what they want so it's out of my hands.. At times I am still stuck in the mindset that I need peoples approvals.. Don't know why that is but anyway... Thankyou very much for your words..


dhav - Hello,long time no hear.. Hope you have been well.. Thankyou,I love my profile picture.. It is cute.. Hehehe..  
That is right.. All that matters is my son and I and as long as I do my best with what I have and who I am nothing else matters.. I'm learning to take my stuggles like a wave and ride them out.. *hugz* Thanks.


Rhutobello - You are right in what you type about there.. As I said above,perhaps it is I who can't accept who I am.. And I don't know why.. I know this is the path I want to take but I also have doubts and fears at the same time.. My life has been full of wanting to please others and making sure people like me.. Until recently.. So now that I'm being truthful to myself perhaps finally I can be happy within and not worry about outsiders so much.. Thanks a bunch..


Thankyou all heaps... xoxo.