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Posts: 459 · Posted: Tue Aug 11, 2009 5:06 pm

soul_flower wrote:

Hello all!!

I have been struggling with this for some time.. Some days I am ok with it and other days it gets me down a little bit..

I am Wiccan and am still learning alot about the wiccan ways but am happy where I am.. I don't have many people face to face that have wiccan beliefs and I'm pretty solitary when it comes to that anyway.. So my network is mainly online which suits me better as I can't get out alot right now due to study and my little boy.. I expected people to judge me and look at me like I'm some evil person.. They give me such a look of almost pure horror *laughs*.. I guess a lack of understanding creates that view,maybe? But what I am worried about is my son and when he starts kinder and later on,school etc... I do not want to hide who I am,I don't want to live a lie and I'd rather be upfront with others.. I don't really just go up and tell others my beliefs but they sort of pick it up anyway.. It would really get to me if my son was teased or picked on because of his mother.. But I want to raise him with the beliefs that you should be who you are and want to be,no matter what others say or how they treat you.. I'm not worried for me,I have always been an outcast.. But I was bullied in school for being different and that is also my fear for my son.. Even my own family after learning this about me have changed,not all of them but alot..

So my boy starts kinder/pre-school in 2010 so I have been wondering how I will go about this..

I am proud of who I am.. I'm being real with myself.. But is there situations I should hide this part of me or just don't worry about what they think?? ... If anyone went through the same sort of thing,how did you overcome such issues?

Brightest blessings... xoxo.

Hi Soul Flower and bright blessing to you also!

I remember when I was your age and I was different

now I am old and still different

it is just that nobody cares anymore that I am different (except for old Rhuto of course

I really like him).

If you go to a Moslem country my suggestion would be to say as little as possible, if anything at all. Ok? Other than that if people pick on you it is just because they are not nice people by nature and it actually has nothing to do with you being a Wiccan. They will always find a reason to pick on somebody.

love,

sunny

Posts: 40 · Posted: Tue Aug 11, 2009 5:38 pm

Thank you for your reply.

You sound sensible, articulate and intellegent.

If you haven't already done it try this test.

Approach someone you don't know in an angry way, I promise you will get an aggressive response.

Approach someone you don't know in a friendly way, I promise you will get a friendly response.

Expect to be accepted and you will be.

Regards,

Mike

Posts: 459 · Posted: Tue Aug 11, 2009 6:56 pm

Mike Voyce wrote:

Thank you for your reply.

You sound sensible, articulate and intellegent.

If you haven't already done it try this test.

Approach someone you don't know in an angry way, I promise you will get an aggressive response.

Approach someone you don't know in a friendly way, I promise you will get a friendly response.

Expect to be accepted and you will be.

Regards,

Mike

If they approach you, be suspicious

until things get sorted out

too many people are up to no good.

love,

sunny

Posts: 1539 · Posted: Wed Sep 02, 2009 11:31 pm

sunmystic - Thankyou for your reply and I will keep that in mind.. I guess I just have to learn that some people wont agree with me and perhaps they may get a little hot headed.. But I'm not going to think about that negative stuff anymore,only positive.. Thankyou.. xox.

Mike Voyce - Thanks a bunch for your help.. You know it's funny you say to do that because I did and really did get the response back that I put out.. I also did that on the phone and really didn't believe it was possible,but there you go.. Learn something new every day hey.. I'm feeling alot better about this now as I know that I can be nothing more than myself and only allow positive things in... Thankyou.. xox.

Posts: 145 · Posted: Thu Sep 03, 2009 2:38 am

Hi Soul Flower

In terms of coming to accept yourself, and acceptance of outsiders, read through the post sweetsunray made on my dream, I think it may be relevant here:

Also, in regards to people questioning your beliefs, with some people it is not so much that you are Wiccan, but more that you are NOT whatever belief they are. It wouldn't matter what you were, they would find it wrong. I sometimes wonder about these people that seem to have that in built need to have everyone believe what they believe and wonder what the underlying cause of that is. The only thing I can come up with is that deep inside they doubt their own Faith and need to reaffirm it by seeing that belief in others.

I guess my point is that it doesn't matter what belief system you use, it will probably be questioned at some point. The same with the bullying. If your son is going to get bullied, it won't be BECAUSE of you. It could be about you, but if you were different (not following your true path), it will be about something else. Kids are creative that way. So your pretending to be someone you truly aren't to protect your son would be a wasted sacrifice (and a big sacrifice at that).

Best wishes,
Rook