I'm so happy that you are in the process of healing.  So many people overlook it's importance.  It's so much more then having a period of "Man hating" or "womanizing" and then getting over the anger to jump back in the dating pool for another swim.  I have done that so many times before.  It was a constant cycle of falling in love with the perfect woman and then one day awaken to find that I'd been betrayed and hurt by a complete and total stranger.  All the while blaming myself and women for all the pain and I hurt I was experiencing.  But that is a dead end.

Healing for me involved trying to pinpoint who was to blame for the problems in my relationships.  It also involved holding grudges against other people and beating myself up and blaming myself for things that I should have done differently or things that I should have seen coming.

But it was a lie.  It was a trick of the mind.  And let's face it, I was no angel either.  I had just as equal amount of blame in my relationships as the other party.  So who did what actually doesn't mean a hill of beans.  The main thing is that a relationship was ruined in the end....period.

I'll learned that in healing, there is no "should have".  In healing there is only love.  Nurturing myself, loving myself, and taking care of myself.  Above all, healing is about forgiveness.  Absolute forgiveness not conditional.  Forgiveness of myself for the mistakes I make and forgiveness of others for the mistakes they make.  I always knew that the past was in the past and that there was not a single thing that I could do to change it but I still held myself back and continued to be withdrawn.  

In order for me to move on, I had to MAKE THE CHOICE to release and let the trauma go.   There is no more need for me to live in paranoea.  Just like you all, I am a master of my own destiny.  Nobody can do anything to me that I don't allow them to do.  I control me, nobody else does.  No one can control you either unless you allow them.  Don't be afraid to make a stand and don't lower your standards for anybody!  Always demand from others what you are worth...and YOU...are priceless.

Namaste,

Mr PL

Quote seen on a church bulletin board," Just because you cry out 'My God' in bed does not make you a Christian."
But this question of oneness - with whom/what?

HAHAHAHA!!! Amen!!!!    

You bring up a valid point though!  

Personaly, I feel that the "whom" and the "what" are separate entities yet interconnected because they share the same essence.  So Oneness perhaps is left up to interpretation by the individual.

Namaste ("homage, bowing to you")

Mr PL

I wish to make a simple point....when our physical body dies the spirit is set free.  The spirit contains the mind and soul.  It does NOT contain any organs from the physical existence.  All memories and experiences remain with the spirit.

Making a purely physical (by the organs) experience a spiritual experience is trying to open to another dimension at the same time as experiences the one we are in.  Just a thought....

Yeah, I was definitely thinking of oneness with the Source rather than another person when I answered.