Hello all,

It is my first post

I want your thoughts on this:
Do you feel that because your parents may have supported you when you were younger, that you "owe" it to them to support them now?


(Pay the bills they run up etc, just because they did it for you when you were younger and unable to work)


Thanks.

In very simple words NO. i do not subscribe to the school of thought that becuase they supported you - you should support them.

however, there is very delicate balance / line... between choosing to support them or not.

I dont get along with my parents, never have but i personally will support my parents - in whatever little way i can. no not becuase the supported me but becuase i cannot deny the fact that they are my parents and need me when they need me. you cannot seperate a nail from the finger... try as you may.

Abhishek

First, welcome to the community hope you will have a plesant stay and make a lot of friends

On your first question I believe you will have big defeat because you see it all wrong.

If you shall go true life with the thought " who supported me, and who do I like to support" then I think your parents have build your Ego a bit to high.
If your first thought is what suits me and do I need to do this, then I think in some years time you will live in a "cold world"

Your parents haven't just supported you, they have given you something you never can pay them back...Your life.

You can discuss how successfull or how bad your life is, but the fact that you live can't be denied, and in adulthood it is much up to you how good it might be.

So if your support goes on the thought of you dooing payback, and it is a pain thing to do, then I would be so cruel to say....breake the bond...your parents see that you don't love them and is hurt by that, I am sure social security or some organization can do the shopping stuff.

If you love them....you just blame yourself for not beeing able to do enough.

There is shades between....but I think most of what is done for the parents are ruled by the heart and not by payback.

So  I have not give any vote to your poll because none fit my thoughts

i forgot to mention that there is no point giving... if that giving doesnt bring you joy. giving comes from within - if it is forced giving is no good.

But perhaps these are answers which can only be answered as you grow older and become a parent yourself.

our parents didnt expect anything in return for what they gave us when we were younger. they just gave.

the only person you have probably kicked on the chest and again and again ... and that person has come back to feed from that same very chest is your mother. a mother is the only person in the world who doesnt leave her child high and dry for kicking her.

Regards,
Abhishek

no, i do not feel obligated to support my parents. i will do it becoz i want to.
they never expected anything frm us, but i will do anything for them, becoz it gives a feelin of satisfaction to bring a smile on their faces:)
its all ur thinking.... once u start thinking u " have" to do something.. then u wud avoid doing it.