I thought I would put this one in since I have a real problem with misunderstanding a lot of people on this forum, I seem to never really take in what has been said and think about it before I open my mouth, that's right I did say open my mouth, I've got a problem with talking to myself and with that a lot of negative crap comes out, I don't mean to be like that and I am trying to change the way I see what people have to say, the only trouble I am having is where do I start, how does one stop talking to them selves after doing so for a such a long time, I'll probably wont be able too because I live on my own and the only other person that I've got to talk to is myself.

hi Samson,
first of all a huge HUG for u)
u know the first step in anything is...realization...
when u feel u r full of negative thoughts.. u can tell urself i have to think positive!
u have us... maybe we r not there all the time... but u can always share ur feelings on the board. trust me... talking to people in reality or on the net heps a lot.
u cud develop some hobby and stay busy..u know something that u have always been wanting to do but never got around to doing?
it may take some time.. but there is nothing that can stop u frm doing something if u r really serious about it!
its never too late..and never take anything the other person says in a wrong sense.
u have to understand that if there is a negative aspect to a person..there is a positve aspect too.. so concentrate on the positive and forget the negative.
take care
and see u around
swetha

I Second that swetha.

First step (beyond recognition there is a problem) to change...turn the negative to the positive.  We are trained from birth to be negative about ourselves.  Try 'cancel that thought' when the mind chatter goes negative.  Before you post is best, but sometimes we have to eat the words after they have actually been said.  In the meantime, try the suggestions on tools of our consciousness (visualization, meditation, affirmation) they truly work as the power of thought.

thats so true spiritalk... I am sure Samson... u will b able to do it. u know sometimes we go thru certain bitter times in our lives that makes us bitter about things even though we dont want to b that way. so u just try hard, think positive and everything will b fine.
swetha