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Posts: 318 · Posted: Mon Jun 19, 2006 10:49 pm

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INTERFERENCE - by Janet Swerdlow - www.Expansions.com

Many people interfere in the lives of others thinking that they are "helping." Often they are only "controlling" someone with a twist that they label "love." Everyone works very hard to set up his/her own lessons. When you come along and take that lesson away, that person has to work twice as hard to recreate that lesson in another way until he/she "gets it" and overcomes that lesson.

How many times have you tried to help someone, only to find him/her doing the same thing again, except in another way? This could be getting someone out of an unhealthy relationship only to find them in a similar situation; giving them money so they can move on only to find them not moving on; putting someone in a rehabilitation center only to have they come out and go back in again. These people are telling you something- "Leave me alone!"

It is difficult when you love someone not to want what is best for him/her. The problem is that most people view what is best for someone else through their own filters. They often think that "what is best for me is the best for you." They do not stop to look at the situation from the objective level of the involved Oversouls.

What their Oversoul wants him/her to experience may be entirely different from what you want him/her to experience. You definitely want to stop all your loved ones from experiencing pain, trauma, and catastrophe. However, this may be exactly what he/she needs to experience for reasons beyond your conscious comprehension.

When you take away the lessons of another, then you take on additional responsibility to that person that you probably do not need. You tie yourself into him/her with energetic cords.

Simply because you can do something does not give you the right to do it. Suppose that you suddenly had the power to heal people. Would that give you the right to go into every hospital and doctor's office to heal everyone in sight?

Some people think that the minute they hear about some geographic disaster, that they should mitigate it with prayer, meditation, and visualization. Does this stop it? It certainly can. But what about the people who created that situation and needed to go through it? These "good-intentioned" people just took away the lessons that these others worked extremely hard to set up. They needed the experience. Now, they will need to work very hard again to recreate another geological disturbance. This will automatically happen unless their mind-patterns change, as this is only a reflection of their mind-patterns in the first place.

Sometimes, Oversouls give permission to help move others on, but the soul-personality refuses the help. Eventually, the Oversoul will stand back and allow the soul-personality to function on its own. Sometimes the soul-personality consciously wants to make changes, but the Oversoul does not allow it because it wants the soul-personality to experience specific things.

Your job is to transcend your own personal wishes for another, transcend your own personal filter, move beyond "what would I want if it were me" into "what does he/she need for his/her own personal growth in accordance with the wishes of his/her Oversoul?" This may be entirely different than you presupposed. You have to look at the total picture from the Oversoul level, and move beyond your own myopic vision.

Your ultimate goal is to learn about Self, Oversoul, and God-Mind. Any teaching that you do to others is simply a side-benefit of your personal learning. Your Selfishness leads you into Selflessness, not vice versa.

Loving someone unconditionally means loving him/her enough to let him/her do what he/she needs to do. This is not easy, especially when you see someone that you love moving toward your perception of personal pain and destruction. But, if this is what they need, then you must let them deal with it.

On the Oversoul level, you can ask that this person be given the necessary help and guidance to get him/her through whatever he/she needs to get through. You may just not be the one to help. You have to accept this, and let it go. You are not here to force your will on anyone. You are only here to deal with yourself.

When a butterfly first starts breaking out of its cocoon, it needs the struggle to make its wings strong enough to fly during its physical existence here. If you see the butterfly struggling to get out of the cocoon, and you take your fingers and peel the cocoon off the butterfly thinking you are helping it, its wings will not be strong and it will soon die.

The same with people around you, sometimes even children. Using this perspective, you do learn compassion for others and their struggles. You realize that everyone's lessons are difficult, regardless of the level. You can help mitigate the lessons on the Oversoul level.

Ask that the person be sent whatever he/she needs in order to grow. But, even though you want to, do not take that person's lesson. When you take on a lesson that does not belong to you, you become responsible for that person and his/her lesson until they finally "get it." Do not take on the extra burden that is not yours to take. You have enough work to do on yourself.

Let the Oversouls handle these situations. Use the energy that you would have spent on others on yourself to balance your own mind-pattern. Remember, these people are a reflection of some part of your Self. As your mind-pattern comes into balance, the people in your life automatically come into balance as a reflection of your own mind-pattern. Your shift creates shifts in others. If you need to interfere, interfere in your own life. Work on yourself, and you will be amazed at the rippling effect that takes place around you.

Copyright by Janet Swerdlow 2006
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My reply to Janet:

Thank you Janet for your wonderful article of wisdom. It took many years for me to learn that life's circumstances for the people I love may not be the way 'I' would want them or things to be, and running 'my' Interference will not be helpful to them. (That is my Ego! and I do not want to absorb part of their karmic lesson.)

In Reiki I was taught to make sure I had the person's permission to send 'absentee' healing to them and then for me to send it 'for their Highest Good' whatever that may be in physical healing or life's lessons for themselves. (Not my interuptation of what I thought they needed.) With 3 daughters now adults, my lesson to learn, was to 'detatch with love' and to let them grow! And you are so right that when I am nicely balanced it is amazing to see how 'well' the loved ones in my life really are and how wonderfully the world really works! Thanks again. . . Linda

Blessings to All. . . Linda

Posts: 24 · Posted: Tue Jun 20, 2006 1:55 am

Most exillent post. Thank you for that one. Iy is one of peoples hardest lessons to learn.

Posts: 464 · Posted: Mon Jul 03, 2006 3:36 am

yes, i learned that lesson the hard way!

samantha