Hi,
I don't know much if anything about gems, but I have contemplated getting one to help with several mental problems that bother me in life. Because I don't want to use chemicals to balance my so called imbalances anymore, I have used antidepressants in the past but can't honestly say if they really did anything for me.

And when I look at all the gems at the store I never know which one would be right for me and I don't want to lay out my personal problems to the person in the store because I don't know them. Not that I really know anyone here, but it is more anonimous as you can see (well you cannot see me, that is probably it)  

So I suffer from depression, lack of confidence, I was always a shy girl and confidence is something I never seem to have collected much of but with my depression and isolating from social life, or any life, failing to find the right course in study and no jobs and not knowing in general where I want to go in life, therefore not going or doing much at all, other than trying to find out how I can find out what I want in live.

I also have problems with eating, sometimes I don't eat at all, which always costs me great effort but I feel very good when I can manage to loose a lot of weight quickly and just feel so in control when I am not eating. The other end is when I am constantly wanting to eat and when I start I do no stop, which is wht I am going through now. I feel very much out of control when this happens and it has gotten so bad this time that I am even getting in debt because I spend so much money on food and when I buy the food I do not control my spending either, I just buy whatever I want, not looking at prices or considering my account balance. Usually at night after I have eaten the greatest amount possible I tell myself this was absolutely the very last time, but the next day, as soon as I get up I want to go down to the supermarket again.

I have very little distractions because I don't go out and don't want to go out and all the things I could do around the house are not distracting enough either.

This is a lot of information perhaps for the simple question if there is a gemstone which could help me deal with my emotions and prevent me from burrying them under a massive amount of food, because I believe that by binging I avoid feeling the loneliness, the helplessness, the desperation, the sadness, everything painfull.

Perhaps somebody knows other means, natural means, that could help. Apart from meditation perhaps, because I don't believe I am capable of relaxing enough. Besides, when I relax the pain surfaces and then I run for the food again, I am not strong enough right now, to fight this urge alone.

Can somebody please help me.

Hi

Crystals and gemstones are a very gentle therapy, they work on the subtle levels and can give a boost where neeeded, they can calm and soothe and energise and uplift depending on their properties.
 

I understand that, what kind of store do you mean? Are you looking at a jewellers with lots of gold rings and rubies and gemstones or a crystal shop that has lots of different stones and raw peices and jewellery? Some people call them 'new-age' stores and those are the kind that will be able to help you. Many jewellers wouldn't know the properties of one healing stone over another and might think you rather mad if you asked lol.

Sodalite, Tigers eye, Snowflake obsidian, Amazonite, Lapis Lazuli, the list is endless...

Flourite Apatite, Rhodochrosite,

Turquoise, Hematite, Rose Quartz



You are strong enough... you really are! What you need is help and most probably in a physical one to one face to face way with someone that you trust. I understand that the internet is anonmouse and so its easier to let down barriers and ask for advice and help which in person you might never do.

Thing is as you can see I have suggested many different stones, and any or all might help you, but, its up to you, I can only go on what I see and feel and what you say and give out, its really up to you to decide which stones will help. I would heartily recommend crystal healing though over gemstone, for one, its far cheaper and you can get some many more vibrations from many crystals than from any one astro-gem, that may be the wrong one. It sounds like you need different levels of help and healing not just one gem to help balance you.

Next time you go to a shop try and see which catches your eye, which crystals you want to pick up? and go from there... Look forward to your answers then perhaps we can help more?

What Gem says is true, you can't just take one stone and expect all problems to go away, for starters, you might consider an Amythest (a purple colored stone), which isnt expensive and can purchased very cheap.

But I think the best way to fight depression or any other problems, is identifying the root, which is generally accomplished very well when one has a heart to heart talk with someone without inhibitions...

Have you considered going into the countryside, or the woods and when you find yourself alone - just shout/scream at the top of your voice .. I have found it to be a good way to release a lot of hidden emotions/feelings and de-stress myself. Can't promise it'll work for you, as we might be facing different problems.

Hi Jstrasi  You know its actually quite hard to scream and shout like that for the first time... I hesitated and prepared myself and then did a countdown then missed it started again lol and ages later tried again..


Now I've got the hang of it lol   WAH!!!

Wow Gem I just looked at your age under you sig pic. Now I know why your so wise and knowledgable your almost one hundered!!!....haha...your doing really well for almost hitting a century of life?

Hmmmmmm.............(Wondering to herself are you really that old??????   Is it a computer generated error???????? Do you just feel 99 years old?????????)    Hmmmmmm hope I'm that smart when I'm 99!!!...hehe