Nowadays the number of divorces are increasing.The children are the silent victims in the disputes between their parents.if anyone(parents and children) has experienced from this situation,how did they cope with it?what was the aftermath of the divorce regarding the children?have the parents tried to understand the plight of their children while trying to heal themselves from a failed marriage?
i would like to invite parents,children to speak out their mind open about this topic if it interest you.

lights of love,
dhav

no reply for this matter make me think that parents have not yet taken it seriously how to deal with their children in a divorce matter which is sad.well i would like to wish you all good luck.

lights of love,
dhav

I am not from a divorce family ..my parents never married

I myself am not divorced..

BUT I work with children and have for years .. I think it depends on the circumstances that are around the child and how MATURE the parents act.

If parents can get along for the child the child will adjust fine.. but if said parents continue to argue and bicker that same child is going to feel the hatred between them!

I will say that I have came back to this post over and over .. looked read / I guess did not know how to reply.  I almost was divorced................... my kids were one of the reasons it did not happen.  
We did the buying the children's affection .. well he was better at that than me because I did not have the $ he had.  
It is not right to make a child choose the parent ..

I have a theory ... what if parents divorce and there is no child support there is no alliomony nothing! You divorce you are done with one another ............BUt when it comes to the child ..the child has joint parents still? In other words on the 3rd day the child goes to his other home ..both parents are responsible for his upbringing ..both parents are responsible for paying expenses for the child ..and both parents will have to pay for insurance ect.
So often a child is the middle of the divorce ..so often the child is the one who is hurt ... I think this way the parents will have to step up to their actions!

HI Deborah,

thank you for the reply.yes i agree with you every word you have said regarding children of divorced parents.the parents should know how to deal with their children in such matters.i wonder if there are some counselling for parents how to deal with this.while divorcing they should also see to their responsibility towards the upbringing of the children.it must be tough decision at that time to deal with their personal lives as well as the children.
i feel also the reason there had no reply for this is the fear that many know they have not been able to deal with this.or they have not given too much attention regarding this.

lights of love,
dhav

There are many resources out there!!

I deal with children daily ..and I have books, specialist, and many others - nurses - doctors, mental health consultants - state officials I deal with ...

Its not just divorce people that deal with such issues happen for parents who never married - Yes this does happen!