dear all,
i have an extremly naughty two year and a half old who doesnt want to be potty trained is giving me a difficult time. how do u stay patient at such times i get so angry at her sometimes and feel terrible afterwards.please help

It can be a struggle....and it seems your little girl have "strong opinions" or will.

Since she have this strong will is it mandatory for you to show a firm but loving attitude towards her.

If you have determent that she shall do a task....then you must see it true....if she put up a "fight" and win...she will learn that go against you are fine....and since they have a lot more energy then yourself...they will start to control you instead of you controlling her

With the potty thing.....try to play with her....try to let her sit on it also in times when she not need it.....talk calm to her....give her a lot of "kudos" .
Try to follow her behaviour...often they put theme-self into a corner...or stop up with a "dreamy" view in their face..when the time comes for deliver...fetch her and put her on the pot.
Talk calm to her....since she is strong will you will have to "suffer" a bit in the start....but if you start to win this will benefit you in your next struggle.

If you are a couple it is most important that both of you always threat her the same way.
Many times we like to give in...in order to be good to her...or to lessen a "howling" situation...if we do...she learn that "howling is good" and will use it for what it is worth

The most important thing though, is to do everything with "Love".. and not take any written statement as "the only truth" in how to deal with it, because we are all different and we must evaluate the situation each time......what I think is true though....that is that it will be a competition between you and your daughter, on who has the strongest will and who shall control who....make sure you win that contest

i dont know if i will be of much help, because i had boys, but what about taking one of her favorite kinds of toys, it would be legos for my son, and i would only let him play with them when he was on the potty.i bought new ones that he didnt already have, and set them in there in a box and he couldnt take them out, couldnt play with them in the tub only when he was sitting on the potty. also sticker reward system worked for him. make a poster with days on it, like a calender, and have stickers for everytime she does without a fight, it will be a fight for the first couple of stickers, but consistancy is the key to all these kids..

l n l
pandrous

First off naughty is such a harsh word... 2 year olds are just really starting to discover there body and the world around them!  

In saying this not all children are ready to potty train at 2 or even 3 ..some wait as long as 3.5 - 4 .. if your child is 4 and not potty trained then worry.

If you need potty training suggestions - ask I have many.

Do you have a potty schedule?
Do you use pull ups or any other product such as these (My personal advice here is if you do  use them up and do n ot buy more!)

oh and u cant be angry with the child..  just take it one step at a time ..slow steps work best.



ps.  I work in Early Childhood