In near future this will be a big issue which warrants everybody's attn.with good health & medical facilities old ages couples may out number younger ones who will have lesser time for them.How to tackle it in Indian context where emotional attachments /bonda & expectations are higher.

I guess India is one of the few places where we still believe in living together. my parents for one want to join an old age home.. i feel u can live together as long as u dont "expect" anything.

I'm not sure whether I would want to live with my children instead of a nursing home, much as I love them with all my heart!
Maybe it's the independant Leo streak in me...but the thought of being reliant on my children in my older years is not a happy thought.
Maybe since I nursed my mother for 18 months, until she passed from kidney failure has biased me against the idea.
I would never want to put my kids through the heartache of watching me slowy die of some disease, and having to put their own lives on hold, to care for me. My mother chose to stay out of hospital to die, I would choose different for my kids, especially since one is autistic and one has Type 1 diabetes...it'd be too much for them

I hear you Jewel..
I took care of my moms mom and my mother for a while..
My mother chose to put herself in a nursing home..
Granted I had to put my foot down and yell a lot and call the state on them... *Sighs* But she could call me and she did 19 activities a week.. Then she fell and broke her hip and so on she past last Oct....

Anyhoot~!!
My mom was a needy woman and I could not give her what she needed 24/7.
I have 2 older brother who would not help me and my husband for her needs..

I to would not want my son to be reasonable for my husband and I..
As it is now I'm trying to find ways how he's going to live and where he will be able to whatever...

I don't have time for me right now it's about my son..
He's also Autistic on the mild scale..
I hate that word~!!
Lets say he's very gifted, and I worry about his needs in life now and ahead of time always have since the day he was born...

I tell my husband to put me in a home..
He says no and I know there bad places..
But my Husband and son don't need it also..
I rather pass in my sleep, at the lake or beach thinking and just sleep...  

At 85 my mom was living alone with lots of visits from family to keep her independent.  She was considering and knew it was time to get some active attention (she was diabetic and didn't eat properly) to keep her going.  She passed away before she had to make that decision and believe me, she preferred to go rather than go into a nursing home.  She had put her mother in one and didn't like the care, etc.

I have one daughter who would want to keep me and hubby if needs be - but I do not want to put that burden on her family.  I love her dearly - her in her home, me in mine.  LOL