Well not all places are like that, there are many that have a very high standard of care.  Sadly its the old adage nothing comes for free.  If you pay peanuts you get monkeys.  If you want top notch care you need to pay for it.

I started my nursing career as a care of the elderly nurse caring for patients with dementia.  The hospital had very high standards and the staffs dedication was amazing.  If i was old I would be more than happy to be nursed there.

There are private care homes that don't have good standards, however in light of the recent scandal of care home patients ending up in a general hospital due to malnutrition and dehydration I suspect these days will be over soon.

My mother has stated just out of interest she would rather be in a home when she gets too old to live in her own home.  Her reasons are to do with being with people her own age and also having stimulation.  she doesn't want to live with my hubby and I because we both work full time and she would be bored being on her own at home all the time during the day.  The nursing home will provide everything she needs and I won't have to worry about her care.

Suzi

Suzi...

I am surely not looking to argue with you, but I think we are talking apples and oranges here. Private care facilities (and my sister has worked for 8-10 in the past 20 years are different from hospitals (which she worked for one in the NE USA and was the best place she ever worked for!)

Of all the private homes, not one had many workers that were truly caring. Many would curse at the patients, and many different forms of abuse (but things that would never be reported). Things like letting the resident sit in their feces for 2-3 hours even though they knew they needed to be changed.

I am pretty sure that this isn't just a local case. As I said she has worked in 8-10 homes in 5 different states from the north to the south to the midwest. So perhaps she has just gotten the bad ones, but I believe there are many things that go on behind the scenes that many never see...

Mystic

Mystic:  I can only say - be careful what you ask for.  The old one does not take orders or listen to the offspring - this means it is no longer YOUR home, they make the rules from now on.  This is very hard on a marriage.  

It is also very hard on the old one - they will not listen to what is best for them by way of health issues.  They will listen to a stranger but not their own offspring - they do not consider them as grown.

We all do what we find best in the circumstances.

sorry Mystic, i live in the Uk so cannot comment on facilities in the USA.

I can only comment on facilities here in the UK and specifically in Scotland.

I am not arguing with you however as a professional I am able to comment directly on my own practice and of course my colleagues.

Suzi

Spiritalk...

Thank you for your admonition. I appreciate your feeligns on the matter, but I see Scripture telling us that "True Religion" is taking care of widows and orphans. I also think that honoring our parents is important.

Some may see these commands as taking care of them by putting them in a home, and that would be best in their circumstance. For me, I wouldn't personally, but that is my conviction. I don't push it on anyone else.

Thanks again for your thoughts..
Mystic