how i understand you , the only difference???Im a man.
I tell myself everyday that i cant control her , her friends , her work mates etc.. , but nothing seems to work.
I find myself thinking of her 24/24 and im even jealous of my own children.
Right now , im trying to let my mind wander in different directions , go take a walk, try to be independet , try ( this is a tough one ) not to think to much of that.
A friend told me some wise words... In a good marriage nothing is able to break it... If you love him and he loves you that is the important thing you need to keep in your mind , nothing else.

It's hard. And you feel so helpless, and weak for not being able to control it. And the sad part is, you push the love of your life away from you in the process, which may even cause them to leave you and then you made your worst fear happen yourself - a self fulfilling prophecy.

Good luck with it. May your marriage be blessed. I believe that maybe, just maybe, Love is greater than this evil, insecure feeling.

Its very hard , i saw my wife wander off in another direction , while i dragged myself down more and more. If not for some very good friends i dont know what could have happened. Right now , things are getting better , but our marriage is unbalenced i have always given 200% of me and im not getting that much. The fault? Probably mine and hers.
Love is the greatest feeling of them all , its able to make us do things that we would never think of.
Hang in there , if your love is true ( and it seems like it) it will all go away.
i have found my soulmate , and im hoping that she will also see that , there is no other way to go for me.
i was told by a psicotherapist that i was a "White Soul" , able to love inconditionaly , that i was put on this earth to teach others how to love the "right way". Seems kinda unfair to give so much and recieve so little but its life , i still have days where i would rather dissapear but thats not the way to do it.
Be strong , love will find its way to you , as i hope it finds its way to me again.

Dear Colette,
I have been where you are right now. It didn't last, the relationship i mean.
After a year of therapy and growing especially by myself i found out that for me, it was a lack of loving myself. Once i understood that, my life became very nice and selfconfident. From that time i realised that if my next partner would be untrue to me he wasn't worth me. Because i deserve much better than that. And if someone would hurt me like that it would be just another lesson in life for me. These thoughts really gave me freedom. And i have been happy and without jealousy ever since.
Like if karma strikes me back in this life already; i'm living with a partner for almost 13 years, who has the same problems right now. I love him very much but it is very difficult for me to help him with it because he doesn't see his problem here. I think it's my new lifelesson to help him to get  rid of it.

Dear Colette, i hope you can do something with my story. You will be in my prayers.
I hope you can sort it out.
Love and blessings, Yentluna.

Dear coletty,
                  There is a saying that female is another name for jealousy;but there are more man folks who are jealousyer than women.You havent mentioned about your partners repurcation for your attitude.Whether he is neglecting or taking positive steps to decrese the tention or he involves more than usual with female.Also find out whether he gets jealousy if you mingle with man folks.Some decisions you have to take yourself anyway my sugetion is try to see the situations in a sportive manner.You see in film  somebodys husband/wife  has to act in very intimate seens but it need not be a relationship start positive thinking.If you are not at all able to control yourself keep quite in a lonely place for sometime thanking or praying the almighty who brought us to this world.If it is not suits to your nature then mingle with as much people as you can and converse with them each and every thing under the sun except your husbends nature or behaviors slowly you will forget about the jealousy and lead a happy married life.If your hubby realy flirts with the females of his contact give him the whole love you have in stock never think of the other girls whenever with him surely he will like you only.
                     Wish you all success in the future life.I am with you as an elder brother.
                                                                                                         Brotherly Yours
                                                                                                               ekjbhat(makara)