Okay...  This dream had a somewhat different feel than the others...  Ryan was not actually IN my dream this time, but he was a MAJOR topic!  Instead, this dream took place in my childhood home (in Hillsboro, Oregon), but the wedding was going to take place in Morgan Hill, California...  Anyways...  There was my Mother and Older Sister, but not my twin sister, or Ryan...  For that matter, my children were not present either...  Anyways...  Everything was planned...  And My Mom and Sister and I were all talking about getting to the church early so that we can make sure that there were no problems...  When suddenly, I realized that I had not purchased my wedding dress!!!  Here I was, Hair done, putting on my make-up, and there is no dress...  So I made a comment about how my old dress would no longer fit me because I had put on weight since my last wedding...  So my Mom makes a comment about how Amy (My sister) should have remembered the ice to soak me in, because now the dress wouldnt fit! (wierd, huh?!)  But I was sitting in front of a vanity mirror in the living room putting on my make-up, cracking jokes about calling David's Bridal to see what kind of $100.00 dress specials they had right then so we could just go down and buy a stupid dress!!

Overall, I actually think that the feelings were quite humorous!  LOL  Even though my Mom and Sister were quite upset that things weren't going smoothly!  <shrug>

What do you think?  I'm sure I'll remember some other little detail after someone has replied, but that's the best I can do for now...  LOL  

Interpretations anyone?!  LOL

Sincerely,
Cory

Hmmm, wedding dreams while not married yet often indicate anxiety about the relationship. A wedding dress more in particular alights how you are evaluating or assessing your current relationship. The cause or event of the dream is often missing from the dream itself. Since Ryan is so remarkably missing, then that indicates this relationship assessment is caused by events involving him.

So, let's see what this dream is trying to tell you about your anxieties, fears and evaluation of your relationship with Ryan. Well, the dress is apparently missing, and you mention how much you joked about it. This could be an indication that you may have been avoiding to assess or evaluate your relationship with Ryan. That perhaps up till now you were scared of looking into things too deeply?

Then we come to the previous dress, a symbol of the past relationship you had. It suggest you are making a comparison of the current relationship with the old, and considering to fit in the old dress and whether it may fit "this time around". Sensibly though you realize it wouldn't. You've "outgrown" your previous relationship. In order to fit in the old relationship pattern again you would need to grow cold (with ice).

Eventually you can laugh at it, and just go with the flow. Perhaps you are letting go of preconceived "this is how a relationship should be" and instead take it as it comes. You accept you're a different person with a different man, and anything is possible, including ordering a last minute super expensive wedding dress.

Sunray, you always have the most ... what's the word? ... comprehensive interpretations!!!  But I don't quite understand this paragraph:

  "So, let's see what this dream is trying to tell you about your anxieties, fears and evaluation of your relationship with Ryan. Well, the dress is apparently missing, and you mention how much you joked about it. This could be an indication that you may have been avoiding to assess or evaluate your relationship with Ryan. That perhaps up till now you were scared of looking into things too deeply? "

Do you mean that I have been avoiding seeing faults in my relationship with Ryan, or that I have not wanted to actually call it a relationship?  I'm just not sure what you mean...

Other than that, I never really thought of my dreams in the way you interpret them...  But then again, I don't really recall every remembering them so VIVIDLY before!!!

Is there anything that comes to mind about it being in my Mom's house and that my Older Sister and my Mother were there but no one else?  I have a twin sister, and even she was not in this dream...  And quite frankly...  The absence of my children is quite distressing too...  Typically, when I dream about "family matters", my children are always present... <sigh>  

Alright...  My eyes are closing, so I'd best be getting to sleep...  Who knows? Maybe I'll have another one of my crazy dreams for everyone to giggle and snicker about!!  LOL  Lord knows they keep me guessing!

Thank You for your insite Sunray!  It is always appreciated!!!

God Bless!
Cory

From what I understood the missing wedding dress was the distressing situation in the dream itself, and not seeing Ryan and your children in your dream is distressing to you AFTER you woke up. It is best to not confuse the emotions within the dream with those after you woke up and thought the dream over, even though dreams can affect you emotionally in waking life.



I think the dream is the first effort where you try to evaluate the relationship, and the discovery of a missing dress indicates you haven't done so before. Evaluating a relationship means to me checking with your inner self how the other makes you feel, how the relationship makes you feel, what you like, what you don't like, where you think you are making mistakes, where you think you're learning something etc... As far as I know, relating people means expectations, making plans, and not always communicating everything clearly and misundestandings following from that. Succesful relationships are those that have a constructive way to deal with these issues. After a while before the next step in a relationship it's perfeclty normal for a person to think for themselves... 'hmmm, which issues came up? How did he, I and we deal with it?' before committing themselves for a new step. That doesn't mean such an evaluation is negative or only focuses on the negative. It's actually to the benefit of the relationship to do this, because it also makes you realize what does work.

The fact that there's no wedding dress indicates imo that you have been rushing forward without doing any such evaluations before this deram... It indicates you went so fast that you forgot you don't even have a dress yet. It does not mean you don't "see" flaws within the relationship, and least of all does it mean you did not think of this as a relationship. It would mean you avoid considering the flaws and sweep them aside from your mind.

Anyway, avoiding to see flaws, avoiding to call a relationship a relationship or avoiding to evaluate a relationship are each of them all self deceptions in order to not confront a fear.

From what I picked up from your posts and the dreams you have I think you and Ryan have somethign good going on, and he makes you feel happy. But it seems that your past comes up once in a while, and that you are going through the process of dealing with some wounds from the past while starting this new relationship. New relationships can help to cleanse yourself from the leftover hurts and insecurities, but not without those leftover hurts and insecurities manifesting themselves in some way during the development of the new relationship. This is one of those dreams that suggests such a thing is happening. That does not need to be of dramatic proportion though. I don't have the impression there's somethign dramatic going on. It's more like some growing pains.

Your post makes me smile...  I think that you're exactly right on when you say that things were rushed, and there was no real time to evaluate things...  I am going thru a divorce, taking care of three children, struggling to make ends meet with the scraps I'm being thrown from my ex, trying to get into school, and all the while, trying to develope a GREAT relationship with a FANTASTIC guy!  Sounds unbearable?  It was...  until I started to look at things from a different perspective...  And I think that it has made me a stronger person in the outcome!  I still don't understand my dreams...  but I have hope that everything will turn out for the better!  Thank You for your encouragement!  If I have other dreams that I just can't figure out, you know where they'll be!  LOL

God Bless and Much Happiness to all!
Sincerely,
Cory