Hey Rook,
First of all, a house, whether that of your parents, an unknown house, or your own... it usually represent your internal "housing". A house = you, with all the different chambers and indicates what or where something's going on. It's a symbol that is the most important topic and almost ever-present feature in the dream, so this dream would be about you and what's happenng inside you.
The second most important feature in your dream is the plane crash. Planes are about reaching new insights (high level ones), having your life taken into a new direction, transitioins (transit zones), plans taking off, etc... In this case, thing come crashing down. For plan(e)s to crash down perhaps your goals were too high and unrealistic, or maybe you lack the belief that you can do what you set yourself to do.
Your instant reaction is too salvage what's left of the goals and plans. The caring part of you (your partner) wants you to let go, thinks it's dangerous for you to even consider what's left of your goals, wants you to forget about the whole thing and move on... whereas the authoritive part of you (the father) supports you in checkng what you can save. You do end up saving what's valuable from the goals and plans that crashed down, and to do so would save either other lives or parts of yourself.
You also face what you cannot save anymore... the crone. You mention her as one of those who died. But the crone is a symbol of death and wisdom. So to see her as dead and as crone is a repitive meaning of her actual meaning. In a nutshell, you know full well what you lost, what plans and goals you cannot salvage. And you are wise to let them go. The feelings you desribe towards her make me think that you feel sympathy for your previous self that wanted to reach those goals, but love yourself enough to let them go.
Now we finally get to learn about your present self, your housing. Apparently some people wish to promote you, do some PR for you, to sell you (the real estate people), in a positive sense. They're using the latest technology and try to show you off in the most advvanced way, but they don't believe you're there yet. They try to advize who you should be.
Your inner authoritive protector is insulted by this... feels as if it's not their bussines, and they invade your privacy. It's not up to them to "remodel" you, or go poking in every room of you and reshape it.
But another part of you is just plain curious about their suggestions... maybe their advice can be helpful, and you're fascinated by the fact that these strangers seem to know so much about you. This neutral and open curiosity comes from a realization they mean well. And so, when you observe their proposals and data they used to make a model of you, you're able to see that some of it is outdated, based on the past. You have already changed outwardly and inwardly. Outwardly life has grown about you, is healthier (the grown vegetation), and inwardly you already feel different about yourself, your family and how you relate to others (furniture).
Hope this helped
