Such persons are abusive people, and they will try to remain in an abusive position at all cost by not accepting the responsibility of their actions, and instead try to make you feel guilty or ashamed, as if you are crazy and making too much out of small stuff. They are cowards. They will try to keep getting away with this non-responsibility for as long as you let them.

There's nothing wrong with being a giving selfless person, but it gives nobody else the right to abuse it.

There is a way to communicate a boundary that is hard for them to ignore or turn upside down. It's called an I-sentence, and it exists of several parts...

"I"
+ "see/note you" some observable and factual behaviour
+ "It makes me feel" a specific emotion
+ "From now on I want/expect you" describe the behaviour you want instead from them


By starting with I, you can't be blamed for attacking them. It doesn't sound so aggressive.

By only mentioning observable and factual behaviour, you're not criticising the person, but the action. It is safer for them and at the same time impossible to deny.

It sounds incredibly scary to share to such a person how they made you feel, but it is actually a show of confidence and courage. (remember they are cowards by trying to put the responsibility back to you)

You hand responsibility back to them, by sharing how you expect them to behave to you in the future, including if it is never to contact you again.

When you're not used to this type of communication, it's perfectly alright to ponder and prepare yourself and write it down.

i have realized(espescially in the past few weeks) that if i keep allowing them to take advantage of me, they will continue to do that. I'm learning to draw the line..
Thanks again, your interpretations are quite accurate.

What makes you think it's not real. It's less dense then physical reality, but that makes it no less real. And it is still connected to this reality. After all everything is energy. Dreams give us chances to work things out energetically which can be a lot less trouble then doing so physically.

Without wanting to provoke a theological debate about it, but since asked:

because I'm an atheist, and there is no evidence for me of dreams being a less-dense-than-physical reality, nor is there need for it to be a less-than-dense-physical reality in order to be valuable.
As for energy: in "physics" there is matter and there is energy, two different things, even though matter can be produced from humongous sizes of energy (a la big bang size) at the speed of light. Our brain doesn't even come close to that amount of energy jumping from neuron to neuron during the REM sleep.
In the case of dreams, their functioning to our well-being can be explained without resorting to energetical influence hypotheses. In my opinion they are symbolic mirros, not an energy influence.

But that is just my opinion and but my reality, and not necessarily yours, or somebody else's. You are free to believe what you state in the quote.

However, I daresay you quoted a saying of mine a bit out of context. Within the whole of my response it would be clear, I was trying to show how actions in dreams (such as attack or even murder someone) do not have to mean that the person who dreamt it is an acutal violent person or murderer.
And I wished to say something to help the OP in letting go of real life fears within the dream world. Lucid dreamers who fly in the sky in their dreams do exactly that: realize the dream is not the 'real' world and the 'real' world's laws do not apply.

It was a positively intended expression. Thank you for reminding me that there are people with different ideas. I mean no disrespect to them by having mine. If you wish to explore this topic any further and exchange ideas feel free to PM me.