I had a dream that I was at my ex wife's house, she does daycare and one of the parents came in and goes to put her soda on the coffee table and it misses and falls on the carpet. My ex looks at her and says sarcastically, oh that's no big deal. Then the dream switches and we are going to the hospital because something was wrong with one of the daycare kids. The kid had gotten sick at home and we were going to meet the parents at the hospital. We got in her van and I told her I didn't think she should be driving because she had been drinking. She just looked at me and started driving forward and almost ran into the car in front of us. She swerved to the right and went over a sidewalk into the parking lot of a repair shop and made a quick left into an ally. As we were driving towards the end of the ally (it has a "T" intersection) there is a house directly in front of us. A lady comes out of the garage and she has a long spear in her hand. My ex didn't slow or alter her course. The lady threw the spear and it went right through the windshield in the middle and hit someone setting in the back of the van. An older Asian man. It hit him right in the chest. Then we were at the hospital and the Asian man was on the ground next to a wall on the outside of the hospital and said something I couldn't make out. Then my ex was in the hospital talking to the parents and I stayed outside and my golden retriever came over to me and was leaning on me and I was rubbing his belly. (my dog passed away several years ago of old age) Then my dog looked at me and I knew he was telling me he was going to walk home, that he knew the way then he got up and walked away. At that point I started walking in through the ER and I saw 2 babies that the DR's were working on. One of the babies was big and they had him laying on his side on a stainless steel table and were operating on his stomach . The DR was operating on him through a hole in the wall. The baby was squirming around quite a bit. Then I was holding the same baby and he was telling me that it hurts and I was telling him, It's ok I'll take care of you.... Then my dream was interrupted and I woke up... Please help me with this one...

Maybe you are seeing something of yourself in the ex, emotional distance maybe? Just the fact that its an ex could represent distance, but also the fact that she can't tell the parent what she really thinks about the spilled soda, but she has to say sarcastically that it's not big deal ... also the doctor works on the baby through the wall, could this symbolize the same emotional distance?

The ex driving drunk and having to go the hospital could maybe symbolized being overworked, do you feel this way? Drunk might be like going through the motions, having to go meet the parents might represent unreasonable demands, so that's why I suggest overworked.  

The older Asian man maybe represents a potential guidance figure, but he is injured and you can't understand what he's saying, so maybe you feel a lack of guidance? The dog might also represent this, the dog leads the way home but maybe you aren't able to go home, so maybe you are feeling stuck in limbo so to speak, with no guidance?

I'll think about it further, because there is a lot in this dream, however, I have got a similar theme running through - have you been worrying about prostate cancer?  It's like your mind is running along a whole range of thoughts to do with all that, eg. vasectomy came up etc.

I'll try to look at it and break it right up.

Hello,

I'd like to offer my interpretation of this dream. I see many "emasculating" symbols in this dream. I think it's surrounds you feeling drained of your manhood by your ex-wife. Obviously I cannot say for sure, but it's something to look at. You mention your ex's sarcasm which sounds like she's being "bitchy" which can be so damaging in a relationship. You are going to the hospital for a child: this shows me you have compassion and want to nurture the helpless (were you ever abused? emotionally or physically? u don't have to answer to us just think of it yourself). She was drunk driving and didn't listen to you... you are powerless to stop her. You are the passenger, a symbol of submission to her, the driver. I could be reaching here, but her speeding by or around the repair shop could be her not allowing you to better yourself in real life. She's holding you back from your potential. The ally may symbolize your claustrophobic feelings of helplessness and vulnerability that leads to the house with the woman with the spear. A spear is a very masculine symbol, most notably as the weapon most attributed to Ares/Mars. The fact that a woman used it to kill the elderly Asian man (which I agree is symbolizing a deeper knowledge of yourself or spiritual way), again says that you feel emasculated or held back by a woman or women in general. I think the dog symbolizes some part of yourself from childhood or even recent past... some sort of innocence you can't quite get back to but need to to go "home"... get where you need to be. The fact that you rubbed the dog's stomach and then saw the baby being operated on his stomach tells me you are afraid that innocent part of you is in trouble, even dying. And I'm sure it does hurt. I think the baby is you, in a sense, a part of you you need to nurture. Focus on doing that and try to get past the damage the woman or women in your life have done.

I really hope that is helpful. Best to you always.

Hope this isn't too confusing and annoying, I really like what the others wrote too.  I've put my interpretation in bold.

'I had a dream that I was at my ex wife's house', second best again, she has the house 'she does daycare' care for everyone but me 'and one of the parents' that cream of the crop set, that's what she wanted us to be 'came in and goes to put her soda on the coffee table and it misses and falls on the carpet' a general story, not expecially that subject, that your ex told you once which thoroughly annoyed you from the start because it showed your ex's tolerance for things that if you did them she would have a fit over. 'My ex looks at her and says sarcastically, oh that's no big deal' time and time again, you forgave her. 'Then the dream switches and we are going to the hospital because something was wrong with one of the daycare kids' you might say to her, would you care if I died or something serious happened to me. 'The kid had gotten sick at home and we were going to meet the parents at the hospital' or even worse still, for her, if she was the reason why if you did develop something serious. 'We got in her van and I told her I didn't think she should be driving because she had been drinking' you made an attempt to reconciliate, in case she had made a big mistake with separating. 'She just looked at me and started driving forward and almost ran into the car in front of us' that opened a can of worms, and her reasoning made you lose respect for her - you were over it. 'She swerved to the right and went over a sidewalk into the parking lot of a repair shop' you suspected one time she was making attempts to reconcile as well, but you had begun to not trust your intuition about her(you were right that time though) 'and made a quick left into an ally' reaffirming that she did in one of her low times make some indications that she would like to reconcile, but you were swamped in work or something and too tired to bother. 'As we were driving towards the end of the ally (it has a "T" intersection) there is a house directly in front of us' then one day you came head on at each other and you both realized it was now or never. 'A lady comes out of the garage and she has a long spear in her hand' you had the power, this one time, or so it felt, but you allowed her to look like she decided the final outcome, like FireRose says, women often seem to weild the power. 'My ex didn't slow or alter her course' she was used to cutting me down, so I just let her go. 'The lady threw the spear' shocked by some fear 'and it went right through the windshield' was it a commercial or a doctor talking about men need to be aware of prostate problems/cancer 'in the middle' right in your important parts 'and hit someone setting in the back of the van' it does get some big percentage of men, some statistic fact. 'An older Asian man' some kind of cool feeling, like its good to be you (has kind of a little dance with it). 'It hit him right in the chest' Vasectomy! what would it do to a guy?. 'Then we were at the hospital' you are spoken for?(kind of a nice feeling -like you know there is someone really nice for you) 'and the Asian man was on the ground' or would it be another hell?(you wonder) 'next to a wall on the outside of the hospital and said something I couldn't make out' but you might get a poster pin up like chick - that would be so excellent. 'Then my ex was in the hospital' but no my ex would feel so awful if I ended up with someone like that and it would look like that is all that appeals to you from a partner - but it isn't because you really cherished things about your ex and about women in general that were just nice women kind of stuff 'talking to the parents' i'm not buff either 'and I stayed outside' and you had slept around(cheated), well mentally at least 'and my golden retriever' your guy extras - a pair 'came over to me and was leaning on me and I was rubbing his belly' can't be that pretty, and might even be intimidating, aahh its good to be a guy. '(my dog passed away several years ago of old age)' still feeling the loss of that great dog, you two were a couple of dogs together 'Then my dog looked at me' you look around, you are home, you have a home, your own home 'and I knew he was telling me he was going to walk home' (this is big, like spiritual stuff that is involved), 'that he knew the way then he got up and walked away' (still involved spiritual stuff ie. visited by nice support spirits, one is a nature guide type of spirit). 'At that point' (more therapy/message absorption from guiding spirits) 'I started walking in through the ER' you came in from an astral therapy place, back into an inter dimension between waking and sleeping 'and I saw 2 babies that the DR's were working on' you were shown a terrible case of neglect from this inter dimension place. 'One of the babies was big and they had him laying on his side on a stainless steel table and were operating on his stomach' this is you, and your realized like FireRose said that you need to look after this person - you . 'The DR was operating on him through a hole in the wall' and it's like you suddenly realize something and crack up laughing. 'The baby was squirming around quite a bit' all those bits about you, like what is it, your weird big toe and stuff, are you and you love being you. 'Then I was holding the same baby' then again this other baby, like FireRose said, possibly you as a child 'and he was telling me that it hurts and I was telling him' bit of self-therapy there, 'It's ok I'll take care of you' again nurturing that neglected child within you.... Then my dream was interrupted' you started to wake up and was left with the thought on waking, I know what I need to do 'and I woke up'