Is there a reason we dream of a specific person on more than one occasion?  How do we know if the dream is telling us something about them, or if it's just our subconscious sorting things out?

I've been having a certain guy appear in dreams lately.  I am attracted to him.  I just don't know if he's appearing in my dreams because my brain is sorting that out, or if it's because maybe I should look for someone with the same qualities, or what.  I've known him for about 3 years and he's never appeared in dreams before.  So it's a little weird for me.

Yes I do believe that there is in most cases (but not all) a reason why we dream of a specific person on more than one occasion. The real challenge for anyone like myself attempting to interpret someone else's dream to help them better understand the reason is to first determine what that reason might be. I do not personally subscribe to the idea that dreams are a form of mental spring cleaning or of getting rid of rubbish in order to make way for more, although some dreams merely represent wishful thinking or harmless fantasy. Not every dream must have a deeper meaning hidden from us to be revealed? How do I get a much better picture of the often subtle difference between the two with regards to a person's dreams (as I will never know for sure)?  Only as a result of considerable experience at doing this, but in the end the person themselves is always the best possible interpreter of their own dreams, and must decide whether my suggestions are either relevant ad/or helpful to them in using their nightly dream excursions as a way of making improvements to their waking life. The dream could be telling you equally as much of importance about yourself or more, as it does about the man whom you are dreaming about?



Although you have "known him" for three years, would you say you are  more or less attracted to him in your dreams when compared to how much you are to him in your waking life? By knowing him do you actually mean that you have been regularly going out together and having a relationship with him? Surely you should thoroughly investigate the possibility that the dream could potentially mean that you are destined and it is in your best interests to get to know hm much better, before assuming that the dream is necessarily telling you to bypass him for a man with similar qualities to his.

A bird in the hand is worth two in a bush (and in a similar manner a man you already have met is often better at the moment than a man whom you may or may not meet, in the future) so why not get a definite feeling as to whether you want him to play a much more major role in your love life by letting him know that you are interested enough in him to want to find out for sure? The fact that after having known him already for three years he has only started to appear in your dreams after all this time strongly suggests to me that you owe it to yourself to find out one way or the other whether this is a goer.

Dreams by themselves, although we have been told they are the royal road to understanding what goes on in our subconscious minds, are of no use unless they are followed up on in your daily life. Even the most spiritually profound dream is wasted on you, unless you are willing and able to check out what it appears to be wanting you to understand in the cold light of day? Get in contact with him ASAP, but do not tell him yet about your dream. Simply (did I say simply) get to know each other better as friends first, before getting too much ahead of yourself and professing your undying love for him on the basis of a dream or two.

Watch out for cupid!

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thanks EoT

I do have a friendship started with him.  We have been talking more frequently in the past few months.  The physical contact is constant and friendly.  I do feel comfortable telling him things, and letting him see what I consider to be my weaknesses.  I am attracted to him in both sleeping and waking...

I would like to tell him how I feel, but it's one of those things I am a little shy about.  He seems like the type of guy (at least to me) that could have any girl he wanted.  I know a lot of girls like him as well.  I'm just having a hard time accepting that maybe his "flirting" is because of genuine interest in me...