Hello All,
I wonder if any one could help me understand the dream that i had in the early hours of this morning:
It was about my boyfriend and his mother....we were all standing in this flat/house which seem quite dark...and the design was dated...maybe 60s? I think my boyfriend wanted me to move in...but i stated only if your mother accepted me....she said No......So i said well thats it ...ive been with you for three and half years and still your mother does not accept me....so then i said the whole relationship was over.................and then woke up from my dream

Its left me feeling quite angry/frustrated and unsure.

I know with dreams you are to try and work them out for yourself but i could do with a little help.

Love and sunshine
Tinker

hi tinker!
i'm no dream interpreter and havent tried to before but i'l have a go lol.

all i can think is:

when you first got with your boyfriend did you feel as if his mother disliked you or did you feel the need for her to like you? if you did this i think is indicated in your dream with the room being dark (unsetling) and dated i.e in the past (beginning of the relationship)


another thing is are you currently thinking of moving somewhere or in with your boyfriend? if so you may have a dout in the back of your mind of doing so or you might even dout your boyfriends readyness to move in.

hope i've helped abit lol

jamie x

Hello Jamie,
Thanks for your reply.....However i have never met my boyfriends mother as she has stated from the start that she does not want to meet me as im a single parent with three children. Also i live with my boyfriend ...so im really not sure what this dream could mean... thats why i posted here......

Love and sunshine
Tinker

Hi Tink-

Based on your dream and the further information you have provided I would say a part of you is evaluating your relationship with your boyfriend, where his mother stands with you and her lack of cooperation. I think the 1960's flat's representation is "an old way of thinking, or rather and old-fashioned way of thinking." It's possible you think this woman has her head buried in the sand since you have been with him for 3+ years and she refuses to 1. acknowledge you 2. meet you 3. accept you as a part of his life 4. which becomes a bit unfair to your children. I would hazard a guess it concerns you the direction this relationship is heading and you are weighing out if it is conducive to progress any further with him based on the hurdles she has created because of her old fashioned thinking. In your mind, if this relationship were to move forward such as marriage her attitude would create obstacles for you and your family because of her lack of acceptance. It's a red flag your mind is concerned about.

Although she is entitled to her opinion and beliefs, I agree.. she has her head buried in the sand and she is missing out on a wonderful opportunity not only to possibly gain a friend and possible daughter in-law, but she is missing out on the joys of being a surrogate grandmother because she is not being open-minded. But on the other side of the coin perhaps she is just protecting herself or even the children in case this does not work out - getting too attached and then having the rug pulled out from under your feet can hurt. Perhaps she doesn't plan on making a move until she sees where this relationship is heading. If this relationship does progress, I hope she will be accepting and feel more confident in pursuing a relationship with you and your children

Angelique

Hello Angelique,
I do think you are probably spot on with my dream interpretation. However i do not think its about meeting my children....etc  i think its more about losing her son to someone she clearly does not accept. I sense this women is cold and shows very little love or vision...she has two other sons and they all seem distant with each other. Also this women lost her husband to cancer many years ago and my boyfriend took on the father roll within the family....every monday my boyfriend see his mother for tea and spend quality time with each other......but i cant get over the fact she still does not accept me....I have been told its her problem and that i must not waste my energy on it.....however it must be on my mind.........because of this dream.