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Posts: 5 · Posted: Mon Jul 09, 2007 2:54 am

Hi there everyone this the my very 1st posting but iv been desperate to find out what my dreams mean.
Hope you can help. A bit of background first... My hubby and i have been married 5 years. We were both married before so its our 2nd marriage (dont know if that has anything to do with it.) Anyway since we have been been together i dream about once a month that he leaves me, and its never in a amicable way.
Each way is different but i always feel totally gutted and destroyed at the way he exits my life. I don't mean that he dies, I mean that he just never comes home or up and says its over and storms off.
I wake up crying, sobbing! He actually wakes me up because i am sobbing.
It ruins my whole day and i walk around depressed and feeling empty for most of the day till he gets home. Even though i know he is devoted to me and loves me with all his heart i just can't stop having them and need to know what they mean.
He thinks it might mean that i dont trust him or feel insecure but i do trust him. Its been going on for so long now that the last couple of times (last night was the last one) i feel angry with myself for having them.
Is there anything i can do to stop them??

Hope someone can offer some clarity on this one

Posts: 4130 · Posted: Mon Jul 09, 2007 3:31 am

Without going into all the finer details, I believe that you are absolutely spot on when you wondered whether this being your second marriage (in both your cases) could possibly be behind this worrying type of dream. I do believe that this dream you are having on an almost monthly basis is simply an expression of your insecurity, especially if you left your first marriage in a far less than amicable manner.

Above all, I do not believe that this is in any way a premonition that your current husband is going to desert you now. I would also suggest that you should not even discuss the contents of the dreams with your husband, nor should you accuse him of planning to leave him unless you have much more definite evidence of this beyond having these dreams.

It is hardly a surprise therefore with the much greater insecurity of modern living that dreams of our partner either cheating on us or deserting us are amongst the top 10 frequently most common types of dreams reported. The best advice I can offer you is to talk with your husband in an honest manner about your feelings of insecurity (rather than telling him about the dreams) and allow him the opportunity to show you that he loves you just as much as the first time you met, and that your concerns about him wanting to now leave you have absolutely no basis in reality.

God bless you both and may your marriage be a long and relatively happy one (but not without it's inevitable challenges),

EOT

Posts: 5 · Posted: Mon Jul 09, 2007 3:43 am

Thanks EOT,
I stopped telling him the details of these dreams some months ago because he was starting to think i didnt trust him and other things that were untrue so i decided to stop detailing them. He can still tell if iv had one because most of the time he hears me crying in my sleep.. Do you know of anyway to stop them from occuring?

Posts: 424 · Posted: Mon Jul 09, 2007 4:37 am

Hi Sooperdream

I rather agree with all of what EOT says, but another thought kept recurring to me...
I guess I will say it. My guy used to dream that he had his hands around my neck and was killing me
... scared the daylights out of him. He'd get up all pale on account of this. We get along very well, he has a gentle disposition and there was no real life reason for this recurring dream. I easily laughed it off, but he couldn't.

I believe in past lives... and I theorized with him that this could be a past life issue...
and first he didn't buy it.... but during the next couple dreams he paid attention (somehow)
to his surroundings and clothing and came to his own conclusion I 'might' be right.

These nightmares stopped when he lost the fear that he was capable of doing this nasty deed ....
LOL... a second time.

I think 'losing the FEAR' was the catalyst that stopped the nightmares....
We have been together 17 years...

I don't know if this kind of thinking will help you or not... but it worked for him.

Good luck to you.... I wish for you sweet dreams....

P E A C E
Evie

Posts: 5 · Posted: Mon Jul 09, 2007 4:55 am

Thanks Evie, Il keep that in mind and see if i notice anything that doesnt fit as far as surroundings etc goes.. The fear thing would is interesting cos i can almost tell when im going to have one of the dreams.

Im not always right but the majority of the time i am. Sometimes it when we'v had a big disagreement or something like that. Everyone has disagreements i just really hate them.

Alicia